Wednesday, October 6, 2010

Finding Solace.?? or making life complicated ??

"If you think your whole life is going wrong
just because so much of it is going wrong,
then you're wrong.
Mostly when things go wrong,
they're meant to go wrong,
so we can outgrow what we have to outgrow."

I completely agree that life is generally not as simple as it appears to be. there are lots of ups and downs and so many tough situations we come across every now and then..

Most of us believe that life is all about learning. We learn from our mistakes.but then why most of us give up even before making few attempts more to find the solution?

suicide / drinking /smoking can never be a solution to the one who is actually intending to find a way out !!!


The other day, i was reading an article which said:


->Smoking kills 900,000 people every year in India, and unless corrective action is taken soon that number will increase to 1 million smoking-related deaths annually by 2010 and beyond

->Smoking may soon account for 20 percent of all male deaths and 5 percent of all female deaths among Indians around the age of 30

-> In India, smoking is the leading cause of preventable deaths. And a major part of the tobacco-smoking population of the country is the youth.

"It is truly remarkable that one single factor, namely smoking, which is entirely preventable, accounts for nearly one in 10 of all deaths in India,”






WELL, HERE I DEDICATE THE REST OF MY BLOG TO ALL THOSE YOUNG SMOKERS ....

so when enquired about the reasons for smoking... most youngsters say that the transition from adolescence to adulthood when they join college ,moving away from parents and living on their own, they feel liberated and totally empowered to make/ take decisions .there is an urge to try new things and this urge is very high during this age so most of them smoke their first cigarette in the college.....

and few others follow what would i call "social smoking "( smoking occasionally) because they believe that occasional smoking is of no harm which actually makes them prone to the addiction

...........some smoke because their friends smoke!! or because they feel that cool factor increases with smoke.

while some others have so called intense reasons such as "cigarette is a stress buster"
"i am finding solutions to almost all of my problems" and "i am finding solace from this hectic world", "cigarette relaxes our mind from this peer pressure" being the ther set of reasons. so, are they actually reducing pressure or increasing the complexities in their lives?..the thing is, smoking never ends any ones problem. it is that people try to forget few things temporarily.

when you smoke,
you reduce your life by 20 to 25 years!!
fine, if you want to die young,this is the best way to realise your ambition. but it is totally disgusting to suffer with bad-breath ( god knows why people like smelling like an ash-tray), damaged teeth, all respiratory problems, poor lung functioning, slower growth, poor physical fitness, heart diseases (strokes), lung cancer, emotional and psychological unbalance ...not only this Smoking is also associated with some more risky behaviors such as poor eye sight, drug abuse ,engaging in unprotected sex etc. smoking has a direct negative effect on sexuality of men. smoking also causes hair fall and blindness
so u die young as an old man.


life is really essential. every thing is possible only if you are alive. give a chance to your self and quit smoking.
it may not be that easy at the early stages but yes, it is you who need to take steps for the betterment of your life..


okay okay!! now stop cursing me :P

life is to live....
and as it is written on most of the cigarette packs " LIVE LIFE KING SIZE "

:) cheers to life .

Monday, September 13, 2010

Living with You through your dreamz....

The generation today  has so many youngsters  who fail in love and would agree the saying,
"love begins with a smile ,grows with a kiss and ends with a tear drop ".
Well, I found a far better one ...
"love is never lost. If not reciprocated, it will flow back and soften and purify the heart "


the other day I saw a lady. She might b in her early 40's wearing a thick purple cotton saree .. with a charming face and sharp features . I started wondering how she would have been at her younger age . Hmm very beautiful I exclaimed.


Life and leading life is never bounded to the age we are in. There are no rules that we must do certain things at a particular age and not in the other stages of life. Most of us, believe that if you are in your mid twenties you can’t go out and play with your friends, those games that we used to play in our childhood like ludo, gilli danda  etc  :P :P,...


well, the trend is somehow in that way only. a teenager now a days, even far before hitting his/her puberty starts pretending to be an adult saying " its personal “ to their parents. Age gap should only be there when the younger people wants to learn something new from the elders. Isn’t it...


She, the 40 years old lady , made me think about all this . When I saw her playing "the dog and the bone" with her fellow friends .. lol
so happy , so joyful and completely energetic and active was she despite of her, suffering from the long lasting ailments.

She lives alone, works for about 6 hours a day at a little school. Helping all those who are in need of her little earnings, and Visits an orphanage twice a month!


she says ,
"its soothing to spends time with all those who have lost something really important in their life . Like these children , so young , they involve you in everything they do and expect nothing  from you except  for some love and  little promise that you would come back and visit them again . You and I  were so fortunate to have our parents around us from the early stages of our life when we were learning to speak , and at every important  step. These young blossoming flowers don't even know ,how to share the pain inside their hearts !!"


" I was married at the age of 20 to the one I loved, life was so beautiful, he had lot of dreams, he loved kids , he also wanted to build a school at his home town. But after five year of my marriage he died because of ill health, it’s tough to stay alone. And that makes a second good reason to visit these children.

“do You miss him?” I asked.
she replied,
" sometimes, I wish he could just come back I wish he could be with me for a few moments ...i wish I could feel his arms around me I wish I could talk to him !!! Though I still believe he is with me all the time” :)
I know I cannot fulfill his dreams but yes, it’s really wonderful to live with him realizing a part of it with all that  I can...."

Monday, August 16, 2010

QUARTER LIFE CRISIS !!!

Quarter life - is that part of your life where you are in your 20's looking forward with loads of hope towards your future. gripping all that you have learnt till now ....
Criticising yourself for those moments which cud have been better....
and pleased with yourself for all those good moments...
Smiling on those moments that were blunders yet beloved :)

This particular stage is when you stand partially confident about what you want to do with the rest of your life. analyzing and understanding all your options......planning .. scheduling .... changing yourself or I would rather say improving yourself ... where you think is necessary


most of us are very lucky to suffer this kind of crisis for a very small period of time or some doesn't get a chance to understand the quarter life crisis at all .... (may b its cuz of their prior planning or pure luck.)

But others are more fortunate to understand this QLC to the extreme extent. May be for a bit too long... they get lot of chances to understand what exactly they want.....then they strive a lot, commit blunders ...and yes a new one every time. Then they learn something new...."who the hell care about results after all life is all about learning and I am in the process...".lol what you call “change in attitude”. Initially it may go towards pessimism but the pressure that built up takes it to a stage where the pessimism ends once for all and a positive approach towards everything comes from within.
Patience is the other biggest thing that one develops in this stage. And the final outcome whatever it is, it is the struggle that makes it the best. :)

Here in the whole context I am not just talking about a profession that a person starts seeking after his/her graduation. There are so many other things that add to the above it may be your thinking, prospective, behavior, priorities, preferences which changes you and transforms a local student to a social individual.

Our thought of "please daddy" for pocket money, embarrasses us.
The brands that we used to indulge earlier seem to be a waste of money.

Besides all of these, there are so many hard ships that a beginner faces every now n then. All of a sudden everyone starts asking you about the job or placement or marriage "So, what are u doing " or “what are your future plans” and we don't find a better way to skip it than replying "nothing".
The momentary happiness for our friends or acquaintances on their success turns to a tragic trauma. "God m still here” is one of the most popular quotes that bother them.
And the biggest one is the thought about your life partner, which keeps on provoking you at the wrong timings lol..

Life seems to be A TOTAL CRISIS....

Each and every moment, the thought of being unsuccessful keeps pinning you down ...but all you can do is to hold on and wait patiently. Cos surely there will be a tomorrow which would definitely end the quarter life crisis.

Guys, just keep working hard and do not lose your faith ...we all are talented.
All the best :-) :-P

Tuesday, August 10, 2010

slow down slow down...........................

life  moving too fast and people around are all striving to keep up the pace...
after all life is a race :)....



And the changes are faster than ever...basic requirements earlier were food. shelter clothing... yeah its still is but with addition of a cell phone laptop and a bike.!!!...letters  got replaced by emails n sms....landlines by mobiles.... one-days by 20-20 ......... and all tasty cuisines by fast food...

its not just few habits , whole life style is under consistent change.

people don't find quality time to spend on them selves and their families..... well checking out the global tweet is more important than thinking about what should i be doing for a better tomorrow....

we can't take out time to sit with mom ..talk to her .. make her smile... every day.... spend some ample of time with our grand parents... but yes.. sending tons of messages on mothers day, fathers day..blah blah.. is such a compulsion.

none of us bother to plant a seed.. but yeah checking out the farm on face book before it gets withered is must and should...

no one finds time to sought out a friends problem.... we all r so busy in gossips yaar!!!

so many await to watch all those stupid reality show.... does ever any body take a step.. to have a reality check ... where do i stand exactly.. .. am i capable of doing anything for self or my people.. :(

people don't even care, who resides in our neighborhood .. but complementing or commenting on some ones status ... or profile photo is our duty....!!

projects ......assignments..... meetings ...... market...... parties and pubs....

"I want to be the first and best...who cares how i make it.".. is the on going strategy ...

fast.. faster .. fastest.....

yes i am in... thats how we go.....

......... seeking money seeking fame..... and satisfaction....
well the last one is the hardest  to find in this world of most unsatisfied humans....... what ever we get, we are never satisfied....

where can v find satisfaction.. what is this satisfaction actually... ..... repeating above line ." what ever we get ,we are never satisfied...." but there are ways.. where we can move along to a calm surrounding...... soothing environment and lovely atmosphere, and its no way far ,just lies in parallel of the faster going world,,, with in us....

all that one need to do is slow down......

slow down u have a family to take care about .. who want you to be a part of there ups and downs...
which waits for you to have dinner together and to share those tiny moments with u.. to gather all the showering concern .just slow down...

slow down when some one needs you....

slow down .. when some one trying to explain you something

slow down when.. ur elders are trying to teach make you understand  something..

thing is, even though we r in no rush.... we never let the vehicle beside to overtake ... Y ???


its not that we are always out of time.. or we dont find time.... we just don't take out time... from our so called busy schedule..., which is actually not that tough....!!

                     Well  its easy to set priority and spend lot of time enjoying it.. with friend... family... hobbies.. or what ever we want to do right at that moment....

So just slow down a bit and think how can i......and the answer will b with you, the next moment!!

you have come all along the end of  this blog...this itself shows that some where in you, is hidden a spirit to change...to slow down..bring back the things to the path...and get it done in your way...


cheers :)

Wednesday, July 7, 2010

TO THOSE SMILING EYES......

A tree is known by its fruit; a man by his deeds. A good deed is never lost; he who sows courtesy reaps friendship, and he who plants kindness gathers love.
--Saint Basil

The first ride on my bicycle , my first A grade on report card...the time when my teacher expressed her confidence in me, the day i got back my watch after loosing it... the time when my friend was standing beside me to take charge of what all went wrong... and the day those unknown eyes smiled and blessed me back ... these are few small yet some positive treasures of my life that m gonna cherish  ever after... hope few more get added up to the list.

  Ever experienced the satisfaction you get after eating ample of food when you were very hungry......???

life gives you many chance to experience such moments but, it again depends on us how fortunate we are to take a step ahead.

 Me and my family v reside in a flat  the locality is quiet in slope, so when ever it rains heavily the water gets gather in our area and we have to swim to reach home back lol

it was 6.00 in the eve and raining heavily ... some how i covered a distance of 4 kilometers in 2 hours which generally takes hlf n hour or so... then when i was almost approaching home, i saw a old man may b he was at his 70s or so ... he had a big poly pack in his hand.......  stuck in the way.. completely bamboozled about the way he was supposed to take....  ... i some how  moved to ward him and asked him .. "how cud i help u uncle" .. he asked me to buy something ... pointing towards a shop which was almost  some 50 steps from ther .. god it tuk me long to make those 50 too ... but i liked the trust the old man had shown ... well i was a complete stranger and he gave away his wallet  to me so ... hehe.... i bought the things, return to the place where he was standing ... and then suddenly i dint find him there... moved off here and there  for 5 mins and sight of him relieved me...



i tuk uncle's hand asked him his address and then left him to his place ..... there was nothing that big, i did .. but after we were about to reach his place he placed his hand over my head .. those smiling eyes ... those unspoken blessings ... made me feel as if ,he returned me so much .....

this experience was far better compared to the satisfaction  u get after feeding urself  when you are very hungry!!!!

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

LOVELY SMILES .. FEW HUGS MANY SHAKE-HANDS AND GOOD BYE TO COLLEGE

i joined this college Four years ago.every thing was so new.. i was scared of almost every thing... 







ii was so curious, so innocent .. so childish ... lol


i still remember my first day to the college. i was nervous to get into my class room, full of unknown faces. i went right to the last bench and sat there till 5 or 6 mins. i dint even lift my head... haha .. then i slowly started talking to the ppl near to me . day by day, the num of students i interacted with got increased .soon we all became a family of same age group..






dont know how these 4 years passed by so soon .. i had enjoyed almost every thing .. each and every part of it..say it b the boring curriculum,teasing frenz, hehe..or learning to interact with people, gaining confidence ..learning to be the way you want . to encourage some 1 who is actually ur competition.consoling others and at times yourself.... motivating people .control emotions, anger and wat not .the list goes on.. i have learnt so much .


well, this is not the only change in me...there is so much that have changed in the due course of time.. but as people say change for something good is called improvement, i am loving these changes .....


and i wud thank all those ppl who were with me n against me thru out the journey in these 4 years for every thing they have done..... Medhu u were n u ll always b the part of this... ahh really yaar, i jus close my eyes for a few secs n there are so many flashes ... so many memories gud, bad, frustrating, exciting, exhausting hmmm.. thanks for all these memories either






and now this last day i was staring at each and every corner .. talking to almost every one i have found .. as if i didnt wanted to miss a single glimpse of any 1 in my frens list ... and there were lots of hopes in me that these last few moments stay back for some more time..


                                  




surely, i ll miss that environment.. of carelessness .. friendship..caring frens.. love .. eagerness for almost nothing ... examz those pre result tensions and post result tensions.. lol.... our so called classes, lectures and of course our lecturers .. every thing will always remain as a sweet memory ...even though few things were not tat sweet ..


































 love u  my frens
 may u all guyz get wateva u desire for ....
god bless u all


----- garima..

Tuesday, March 23, 2010

The right attitude can lead to empowerment

A young girl walks on the lonely street, unhappy with herself. She is not beautiful like others are. "My friends have boyfriends and I do not. They are happy. Since I am not beautiful, I have no boyfriend." 


A strong breeze blows against her face and her silky hair starts dancing. It says to her: "Be like me my child, go with the flow and you will glow." The breeze teaches her to have an attitude which will lift her beyond mere physical beauty.

The breeze is constantly moving; so to move with the vastness of life without getting stuck, be like it, constantly move. The breeze says to her: "I do not move for happiness but out of happiness. I do not dance for happiness but out of happiness. A youth should learn this art to operate from happiness and not for happiness. Happiness is an attitude. To be a winner in life is also an attitude."

Your attitude is more important than facts for the right attitude can empower you. When you are empowered, you are bigger than a problem rather than a victim to a problem, and living in such a space makes you a winner. An easy task becomes difficult when you have a poor attitude. A difficult task becomes challenging when you have a good attitude. 



Change your body posture. A trainer talking to students on the subject of public speaking told them: "When you talk of heaven your face must be glowing and radiating joy. Your eyes must shine and lips should reflect heaven." "What about talking of hell?" asked the student. "Your normal face is enough," replied the trainer.

Change your mind. Always entertain healthy thoughts. Positive thoughts are a great asset. A pessimist sees difficulty in an opportunity and an optimist sees opportunity in a difficulty. Understand that when one door closes another opens. Trust life. Insecurity invites you to be alert and not worried. It tells you to be creative and not complain. One has to know how to take it easy and float in life and not fight with life. You can't fight with the waves but you can learn to float.

Change your emotions. The quality of your life is the quality of your consistent emotion. When your emotion is low, just change it; think of a happy incident. Change your values. Have values that connect to goodness and connect to people. 



Follow these psychological exercises: Always stand and sit erect. "If you want to be a colonel, walk like a colonel," is an expression in the army. Keep the body posture like that of a winner. Fill your mind with positive thoughts. Keep your emotions on the top of the world. Exercise and keep the above alive in you; see and picture yourself doing this.

Lots of people fear failure, death, insecurity and rejection. Come from a commitment that failure is only postponed success. Failure is the fertiliser for success. If you bring this energy into your life, it will give you methods of handling fear of failure. Also understand that fear is a movement of thought. Thought is nothing but a movement of the mental word.

If you get identified with a fear which is actually just a thought, which again is just a word, then this identification makes you a prisoner of fear. Also, this thought-fear unconsciously pulls in the previous memories of fear and with the past fears, a snowballing effect happens.

So when fear happens, just become totally aware and don't get identified with that thought. With wordless awareness, just watch. This watching will not allow the previous fears to have a snowballing effect. This is called objective watching. You feel insecure because you have a concept of what is security and from that concept you are seeing life. Anything that does not fit that concept makes you insecure. 



If you have the spirit of adventure in you then insecurity is a great adventure for you to explore. You will have fun with that insecurity. Learn to trust that insecurity is inviting you to be creative.









--- one of my favorite article that i read...

Saturday, February 13, 2010

TURMOIL

THIS IS WHAT TAKING ON N OFF THROUGH OUT MY MIND FROM LAST FEW DAYS......


things are becoming so blurred that m unable to reach out to what i wanted ...... what was there last days.. back of my mind ..what was that ,for which i was planning ...

hope its not just me who is facing this

first time in my life i am so confused .. to take up decision is it lack of self confidence or am i becoming weak mentally where is my all strength gone ...

Its tough to take the blow ,which says you just missed the thing which was almost in your hands ...cuz u were a little busy planning for the next movement. i seriously felt sick to my stomach .. m i not worth to b there ... was all the hard stuff i worked on not enough.....

emotions emotions n lot of emotions why they dont understand the logics .........

its not the first time ..... actually

i guess my reflexes are weak i take lot of time to understand n analyze and as i realize what had happened the movement slips off..

say it b the time i could have achieved  a huge reward for my work . or a lil more happiness or pride for my self or a clear understanding to a relationship....

i really don understand when v give so much to some thing how can v miss the fruits of it.... or how r v unable to make ppl understand what v actually meant ....

i was neva so upset with some ones behavior but then  it really hurts when some one, whom u believe so much react in such a way that u neva expected .... that day .. that movement of past was yukk .. too bad that i cudn't understand what was going on ....neva sitting beside someone was so unpleasant ........



 it happened that i shouted on some one for no reason.... it hurts wen u behave rudely to some one who cares u so much even though they understand u, but the guilt huhh no space for it to escape......

i am trying to take a step back but the feel inside gives a complete distressingly discomfort ...







forget forget n jus forget

start up fresh.....

b strong stand up back n work out on your flaws

hope things b fine soon....