KyON ? nA BOLE mose mohan KyoN?

Trust is a big thing and understanding is another.... If you carry both, for a person then that person is surely a true friend of yours.

These friends you never know, when they become important to you, you love spending time with them ... you feel lighter when you are around them. It really doesn't matter whether they consider you important or not. Its never important to be center of attraction among them, the leader or head to whom  the rest listen, you just love to get teased , you enjoy teasing them, annoying them, pleasing them and at times making them feel they are the very special people in your life :-) and  I am lucky to have a group of such people with me.

At times it happens that you become unhappy with that person leavin u behind for the  timebeing or for the rest of life.. .. right !
and when that person doesn't understand, the reason behind you being agitated or disturbed..... you feel more depressed. Most of us tend to get irritated and angry and the rest goes worse - we fight with our loved ones and situation gets more complicated :-/ .

I don't know if in these conditions its easy to talk, But yes, One thing what I am sure about is - Its easier to stay calm when you are angry ..... stay away if you can't hold the agitation.. caused by detachment of someone. At times under agitation you loose your control on your head and words spoken to some one who is important to you can harm your relationship. The further damages would be a little long lull between the two person. You are left with..... if I dint...  I shouldn't have....... why did I ... kind of things :-D

Readers are open to provide their thoughts and advises :-)

Most of the troubles comes from misunderstandings so my .....last thought of the day

“We're all born with selfish desires, so we can all relate to those feelings in others. But kindness is something made individually by each person...so it's easy to misunderstand when others are trying to be kind to you."-- NATSUKI

 -- Cheers
Garima singh

An Abrupt Discussion!

Few days back.... It was a Wednesday or Thursday I don't exactly remember, But I do remember the conversation I had with a very close friend of mine..

 Aashi hmm... I don't know whether I should apologize to him ...for eating away his  brains every evening, specially when he is literally very tired, I never let him sleep in the bus and start up some unending discussion -> which at time becomes one sided, lolzz  hands off to his patience :) and his capability to listen to all  the senseless issues I go on with. 

Though the discussion I am talking about wasn't that senseless and one sided it was about Dreams and what all we dream, why n how they come to our head and.... how good and creative our brain could be at times...that it gives you scope to think in a complete new angle to start up something , If in case you remember those dreams.

I have few of my short stories on them, some paintings and few very thought provoking incidents that came in as illusion or dream, which held me up to make up some good decisions and habits :)

I believe there is a person inside us which makes us see what all our possibilities are.... now its on us how much importance we give to it. or if we ignore it. This person visualize lot of things, you see everything, feel it and then you are positive with certain conditions and negative with the rest. but this inner person tries to think beyond whatever you see ... calculates it keep a tik ahead with future summarizing the past... May be its the same person who makes you dream  ....More than what you can think. I know I know I sound absurd at times 

But what if i term this insider as our Partial brain or instinct huhh...

I don't  know how to conclude this blog may be Its again something too psychological :-D Even the Discussion was abrupt though ...... hahaha

Hmm but I would write a little more  about dreams in some other Forum 

- cheers 

Garima Singh

And I'm Numb again..!

Times when I regret few moments, Hope they never took place

My throat's chocked, bruises inside my heart; I badly crave solace..

Its tough to understand the pain inside, it just goes louder and strong 

Time is a fraudster, Who can explain me, when and where did I go wrong

I am tired of all lies, the ugly faiths and the trampling consuetudes

Things disguises me till the core and am done with these attitudes. 

 I am Numb again, confused how to react to the affliction 

Life seems baseless, efforts seem aimless am left in depression.

ARE you trYing tO fliRt with me eh’?

And here comes the much awaited topic on which I discussed with many of my friends’, colleagues and not much known public around…..

Flirting – and synonyms of it.

I know most of you reading this, will be wondering why is this girl writing about such a genuine thing..

 Ahem Ahem, ahhh…….. No need to guess that you all know, very much and very well about it, Still as a part of my analysis, I came to know that though its quiet a common thing but the perspectives on it vary from person to person.

So why don’t I summarize things I felt were really good in here :-D

I got lot many definitions of it, and I picked up a random one which attracted me on an instance. Here it is

“Flirting is the gentle art of making a one feel pleased with him or her.”

--Helen Rowland

But again "Flirting is the art of keeping your affections and inwardness at a safe distance" Agreed??

For most of us it just comes as a part of our attitude! I wouldn’t say flirting is bad, cuz…. even if people say, flirting is all absurd thing, generally no one really mean it ;-)

Flirtation is something like attention without intention. The whole world seeks attention so if someone gets it without much reason they just feel good. And who don’t want to feel good huhh !!!!

Unintentional romance or teasing comes in day-today life while an informal conversation at times we realize it as flirting or often it’s ignored. People generally tend to say things which are straight lie, and the other listening it, agrees with the fact but still, they continue with it .. cuz this kind of fun and keeps the atmosphere active and light. Flirting; to be very frank is a complete act of making serious impact of flattery on one or more person. More often as few study says it’s a good way of improving confidence in people around you.

Like in --

“ hey buddy you look awesome today” Now does it really matter, if the person is really looking like Some Hollywood star no naah.

“ Wow what a smile; you look beautiful when you wear your smile“  

Say this to a person and he or she would definitely smile for next 4 to 5 times they remember your compliments.

These are few positives let me include few negatives as well, whenever we flirt ....as there is no measuring scale , which can calculate the amount of flirt is less or more so, we need to keep a check on the circumstances , surroundings, marital status :P.. Mental status of your partners and of course lot many more things.

One need to know with whom to flirt, how much to flirt and when to :P.

Girl :“Dude you look awesome “

Boy : Oh thanks

Boy’s girlfriend : #$$%$^^%^% (keep a distance from him )

Lolzz

Flirtations are still, good when they are only soft and verbal… simple and only for cheerful fun… as there are rules in everything few rules even apply in here. Flirting should be avoided if the person is serious about the relationship, be it a separate relation or a relation with you. One should never take any risk with relationships. and in case you try moving beyond taking risk it wouldn't be flirting its called cheating :-/   Intimacies shouldn’t be part of flirting .. I am not describing this further.... cuz am sleepy :-P

Concluding with few common lines we hear here and there ;-) are at times good to use as well :D

“Oops! I lost my mobile number! Could I have yours?”

“Can’t wait until tomorrow, because I bet that you get more and more beautiful everyday.”

“Did the sun just come out or did you just smile at me?”

“You remind me of my next girlfriend.”

“It’s okay ….. you don’t have to stop staring”

“Single and looking… anyone wanna be found?”

“Come live in my heart, and pay no rent.”

And my favourite one -----

question :ARE you trYing tO fliRt with me eh’ … ?

answer : Naah, it comes naturally!! Rather I would say you are beyond flattery ;-)

Signing off – Would continue this not so cool yet hiped topic under some other forum....

------Cheers

 Garima singh J