Revamp & Restart

Did it ever happen to you that you want to listen to some music and then there are too much noises out side every where .. may be it seem good to others but you are unable to take that one, you just want to indulge in your own music. What do we do in such cases ? We try using head phones and increase the volumes so that we concentrate only to our piece and stay in our own world no matter even if this loud music strikes your ear a little, It seem manageable isn’t it ?

Often when we are depressed with our own set of problems we do the same thing, we close our ears even eyes to anything thats coming our ways …. 

Totally unsure but feels like I am hit by my quarter life crises again ..

 Its been more than 3 months now in this new city, However I am Unable to find friends or a job, yet I stay busy .. not just busy "very busy" ….. certainly for the same reasons as above ….And now I don’t go out of my way to make friends as I always did , It often leads to disappointment, people are so busy or may be not ... Some time I feel as if  people are scared of each other that they have stopped speaking they keep them selves busy with gadgets … gadgets and gadgets everywhere they are  more important than person sitting beside.
I don't know how many of you have noticed but often people don’t react even if the person is trying to speak to them … They just don’t seem to be looking forward , and one person can't  go on hitting the ICE to break silence. 

Anyways Digging too hard into the feeling of why thing not falling in right place I realized that I have really increased the volume of music louder enough to hurt my ears, I need to assure that people who want to explain me things, & help me out are heard properly. and If something consistently irritates us about someone or something , then thats a high point to understand ourself on that particular aspect. Its not always necessary that problem retains on the other end. 

Lets revamp and give things another SHOT ! Well I can’t let circumstances change me :-/ 

Though I have heard too many times the saying “ don’t waste too much time in thinking or else we end up thinking too much and doing nothing “ 

It doesn’t strikes our head while we are actually wasting our time. lol

Cheers

~Garima ~

Start being fair, being fairer isn’t that necessary !!!!

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Miss A : You are such a talented dancer and you are on side stage 

Miss B : Oh dear what can I do,Its my fate, this dark complexion. :(

Miss A : Tadaaaa take this cream use for 30 days 

and see what wonder can it do 

 Conclusion : - Miss B becomes centre of attraction after using the beauty product.

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Mr H shows all his talent in acting, but no Director or People acknowledge his hard work and all of a sudden, Mr S comes in the scene..... saying "you need this beauty product" … and TADAAA Mr H becomes a Super star

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Another similar one with a enthusiastic cricket commentator , who then becomes fair, only to bag a job as commentator beside K Srikkanth. 

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One more One more … A guy being the interviewee can ask questions to his interviewers and impress them only because he is fair … and his fairness gives him super confidence to do so…. how funny 

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And the last one

A guy breaks up with his long time girlfriend to find a new one, and then when he find his X who eventually becomes fair post using some beauty fairness cream finds out that he still love her …. Man Awful…..

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We have been seeing such commercial day after,  Its not that I am offending people who are fair , or those who use such beauty products, but only one question hits hard to my head over and over again, when I see such concepts being used in commercials  which are frequently telecasted. 

I mean .. what sense that concept makes, where you show that a dancer, if has a lil darker complexion doesn’t fit good for being on centre stage ??? or if a girl has dull wheatish skin can’t be a good commentator, And your color makes it all to big screens or gives you confidence …. this is all nothing but a weird state of making color discrimination. Color has nothing to do with your confidence nor with your talent neither with any relation ship , No Idea why indians or may be huge set of people mad about the fairer looking skin.

WANTED BRIDE WITH VERY FAIR COMPLEXION

Ever gone through a male matrimonial ad.. 80 to 85 % have this line in common out of rest 15%, 10% would omit the word VERY but rest would certainly be included. No matter what complexion the guy carry.. and ahaaaaan this is not for the groom or for their prestige its issue with the next generation … the next breed needs to be fair, No matter if they are stubborn or ruthless yet fair is must. I wonder who will talk about the colors in future decades though, but yes color in current generation is a very big criteria.

 Come on! THE NEW GENERATION when are we going to change our thinking on this aspect?

As most of us prefer kajol over any other heroine, no matter if she is dark, she is talented and super kool on the screen.  I can skip a katrina’s movie but kajol would never be a miss. 

Just like when we make new friends we don’t set criterion of looks, here what matters is bonding and nature of the other person, why doesn’t the same thing been carried well in other cases?

Anyways I really hope some day things would change and even our mindset.

Non of us can evade discrimination it starts as soon as you see yourself in mirror, its says this is you and they are all there who come in others, however we can definitely avoid difference we don’t live in mirror, we are not reflections we all are humans.

--Gary

Cheers :)

Garima Singh

~Beauty lies within~

The Wrapper

Often being judgmental is so facile that we tend to be so. You see a person, and then you observe him of her for quiet some time and try making out, how and what the person is like (strangers are not included in this case) ! This is totally normal too and an art of being human. We decide things based on some instincts some pre assumed perceptions may be.

But what if you are allowed to be with this person for more than provided time, Say long long time , May be in initial few days we will still go with the primitive practice of framing up the characteristics of this person and sketching in filling, colors putting stress on our head checking out things apart from looks - Certainly Behaviour comes first in the row which Often stays normal and actuals, after the first few hours, how they react in different situation, their high and lows, angers and ambiguities, stress and pains , pressure and pleasures.

I agree that understanding a complete stranger takes loads of time and effort, or may be not as time passes. And as time moves on you move on to a more comfortable zone where feeling are replaced by there behavior, For you what this person feels become more crucial than how he/ she behaves.

Concluding here … as the journey never ends and the point you start introspection its start of another phase ;)

“ Never decide the taste of a candy or importance of the gift by checking the wrapper, cuz neither the aroma, sweetness and the pleasure of having it be felt till the wrapper is unfold”  

Cheers 

Garima Singh

Things are not always as they seem; the first appearance deceives many.

&  (though I offend a single day being celebrated for love ) Happy Valentines day :D

The DISTANCES..******Doorie******. :P :D ;)

               "Distance means so little when someone means so much." 

While we were busy in our own buzz

May Be, These Distances chooses us

To teach me how to miss someone, 

and to hangup though am never done

To count time that was past, when I met you last 

 Against the time, I will see you again

To tell you how much I believe you

and to tell you how much I need you

The fights, quarrels , fun and discussions we overlooked

and here we are an year away to when we were hooked 

~ Garima

---- Its 28th OCT 2013
Loads of Love Cheers :)