Affliction

The secret of success is learning how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. If you do that, you're in control of your life. If you don't, life controls you.

-Tony Robbins

Pain and pleasure are both part of your life, fortunately or unfortunately we all go through them, though we run behind the latter one and escape from the former one.

 We need to agree immense pleasure or intense pain tends to change our physical behaviour and mental status. At times the changes are good,  if  u experince happiness following those changes ; on the contrary, its always better to have a reality check, whether we are still on right path, and not going on to a pessimistic darkness.

If you feel any such thing at any time, first thing one must try is, find a trustworthy person to whom who can talk about whatever is going on. Don’t tempt to find solutions of your problems right away, that way.... we generally land up screwing up something, hurting others and self as well.

If you are unable to find any person as in my case:-D I start scribbling things out on paper or on my blog. It’s as if I am talking to myself explaining and again understanding what could be done. It helps J always. Don’t persist the pain inside it's of no use.

Most of the people try crying even that helps and if it does, do it. I believe tears don't always signifies the weak; crying is very much human.

If something or someone is bothering you keep distance from them. Be selfish enough to grab moments which can console you. And never forget you are very important and no one in this world needs to justify thatJ. If you are angry on someone or others are angry with you, find the solution rather than the cause and give space and time to yourself and also others.

Concluding with few lines from William Arthur Ward

“Before you speak, listen.

Before you write, think.

Before you spend, earn.

Before you invest, investigate.

Before you criticize, wait.

Before you pray, forgive.

Before you quit, try.

Before you retire, save.

Before you die, give.”

If there is a confession to be made, just go ahead. As someone said - A confession has to be part of your new life; things will definitely move more smooth after that.

--- Note this is not an apology letter..cuz I wasn’t wrong; but yea I always want my friends to be happy , afflictions are too bad for anybody…. so huhhh would definitely attempt for a cute “ I am sorry -please smile”  kinda thing. Hope my frenz do the same ;-)

Friends do take care of your friends as well.

Cheers :-)

Garima Singh