Thank YOU 2011; CHEERS -2012

Year 2011 – was one of the most wonderful years of my life … certainly I can say, I had altogether some different 365 days of my life.


I mean like previously when I took up celebrations of upcoming year there wasn’t much difference in them. We cut cake ate good food danced like mad monkeys and then 9 8 7 ….. 1 0 Happy New Year tanta daaaaaaaaaaaaan

Next day was the same I had to go to college or school. I wasn’t so sincere about anything else other than my education :)

But last 365 days were different, they have changed my way of thinking, my beliefs, my way of analysing and understanding things, I take up everything with equal sincerity and responsibility. I find myself standing here welcoming this new year with so many hopes, dreams and aims for every next tomorrow.

I believe everything that we learn is 20 % from your experiments and understandings 80 % from our surroundings. I feel am too lucky to be in such a surrounding where every new day brings in something new for me to learn.

Here I would like to THANK every new person who found me or whom I found around, be it  at my workplace, my bus stop, social networking site ;) mutual friends, friends from other workplace (who came in contact in time of my need or my friends need :D ). Life definitely wouldn’t have been this smooth without your help guys… One thing what I have learnt and adapted from all of you was, being open, being available and being helpful definitely becomes a benefit to people around you; but it eventually is a big benefit to you too :D.

Growing up was something that I always hated, don’t ask me why. But now hehe I take up every new twist as challenge Thanks to my family :)

I was so confused after my graduation where to land up, thanks to my bhaiyya (elder brother) helping me all the way, teaching me how to make and take decisions, pushing me at the points where I stood weak to boost me up.
Thanks to Anna Hazare, finally I got habituated to read newspaper, which I was trying hard for 7 months.

Thanks to all the eye candies ;) .. Boys you were all too good and helpful for teaching me peaks of fascination :-D.

Thanks to all my old friends who are still in contact. Though we talk once in a month or 2 but yet they make me feel nothing has changed between us :D. Love you friends you all are and always be the bindass bunch of superstars :D I had who keep shining always. Who try hard to make me smile and if I don’t, they tickle me so hard that I have to shout –“ab bus karo, jaan loge bacche ki ”

Thanks to my guru ji, you were a great influence for making me more optimistic and active.

I'll always be good to all of you, spare me if I commit any mistakes.

Though this sounds like thanks giving speech after some film fare award but thanks again for all your love and support.

May you all be blessed with what all you truly desire for, Be healthy, Be happy, Be positive and Be confident rest of things would definitely work well.

I have taken up my resolutions again and I must fulfil them unlike previous years :) and carry them forward effectively -do pray for me :D.

May every new day bring in lots of hopes and opportunities for you all. A Very HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.

Love you all, CHEERS :)

--Garima Singh

FRAME IT, The RIGHT Way !

"We learn something every day, and lots of times it’s that what we learned the day before was wrong."
—Bill Vaughan

At times things take time to digest, don't they? Yes I agree it may be because of our bad appetite but at times its cuz.. the thing that we ate was very wrong and not the apt what we should have taken.

Somewhat similar thing comes up in life. Many times we face situations where we surround our self with so many questions and try answering them, and lots of confusions and contradictions and created in our head because of these situations, all together just for the one previous step we have taken earlier.

We frame different opinions based on our perceptions, and it’s all our nature which tempt us to grow these perspectives, be it on a task you are doing (like your planning /work), or a person or anything. It’s risky to take decisions without much analysis; I agree that decisions must be quick but they need to be smart ones, but again you need to have a strong heart and head to bare the result (just like a healthy stomach to digest whatever comes in).

I have a nice incident which I read the other day

------ There was a young couple with their 2 year old child travelling in a train, They were enjoying a lot talking about their plans while to break their conversation a old man entered the compartment with his boy who was of 25 in age. The couple started wondering at the behaviour of this boy, who was very excited about the journey. He took the seat near the window and was gazing out.

Boy : papa look out the fields are so green and those house are so colourful.

Dad : yes they look lovely.

Boy : papa look at those birds they are moving in groups.

Dad : yes dear they always do move in groups

Boy : papa look this is a river we are crossing the bridge.

and the old man kept up his smile. Unable to bare the confusion this couple asked the old men, if his son was mentally challenged.

The old man smiled and replied that his boy had recently gone through his eye operation, which was successful and now he is able to see.

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Surprising isn't it, at times we form so wrong opinions on people, without analysing or enquiring much. Life makes us face many such situations and we don't try to learn anything from them.

 If you have taken anything wrong which you are unable to digest, you do try out to eat something that makes condition better don't you? This is what we should do when it comes up with any of your decisions /opinions / steps anything that went wrong.

If you have framed up, some wrong opinion on someone and now that you know what you felt/done was wrong give yourself another try and make things up. Lifez too short for misunderstandings, If you want to correct something do it right away!

------Cheers

Garima Singh

Chemical Reactions

Every time we see a girl and a boy together giggling a little more than needed.. Our head thinks a common thing.” Definitely there is something more than friendship between them”. Perhaps it’s our Indian brains which often tend to see what we want to see. Most of us are too obsessed with these amusive affairs.

It’s too good to see romance be it live or on screen right!

 The male star drooling at the lady of his life and the girl gazing back at him. Where everything happens in a slow motion... the girl slips and exactly, at that time the male lead comes to hold her from falling and the background music playing all the tantrums stopping those moments for the duo to make some interesting stuck ked chemistry .... Which talks lot more than what’s being shown. Well that’s all about TRPs because nobody  here’s  interested to see things end up with few scene’s, where both of them agree with the love and end these cozy scenes. Well if both the leads loose interest in making these scenes and end up settling down with each other and live like a normal happy couple… Hmm  what would be left for the audience..... We all love the rush of adrenaline and excitement that comes from watching these scene.

It would have been good, if even in real life we could stay stuck with these stages where we never declare the end of this (wating in obsession for love) stage drooling at each other isn't it.

In Our real life -crush, love, lust, affair or whatever we name em' happens in phases which either end up with a broken heart with lesson learnt or a strong bond with a mature relation and lot many more thing which we go on learning at every next step.

These phases as I read and understood I would like to divide into 4 stages.

The first stage:  Attraction stage

Attraction the word itself talks out loud, it can be the first stage of getting together for relations ship which may or may not occur (completely depends on the two people ).

 As soon you grow up and understand the difference between genders there is much more interest that come from our inner self to know a bit more than u have told about the other gender. This interest while you grow up changes to another interest which can be termed differently based on the intensity of your mental or physical needs.

 I know am being too open about this topic but I believe I have right to express my thoughts.

Anyways I would like to extend a bit more about this interest or attraction from a male perspective, attraction for another girl is a little or more but can be termed to lust or true intentional love.. Boys are either completely crazy about the beauty with little brains or no brains :P or fall for a too caring and loving girl with an understanding nature. Girls don’t be much bothered when your guy looks at another girl while he is with you. Its common men’s tendency to check every girl till the point he could extend his view :-D. Play smart don’t stop or ask  for any reason he would just lie. Here I would reveal one more secret, at times the girl may or may not be very good at looks but Guys find her interesting if some other boy is already looking at her ;)

Here I am not being biased

From female perspective attraction is all about what she wants  it could be the attention and importance in term of pampering her, caring her,  loving her, teasing her … be it from  very costly gift or sparing your time.  Strength power and position are quiet important for any girl (Now only your girl can answer whether she want to see that currently or in your future being with you).

Now that’s how attraction starts. Lots of chemical reactions inside you and based on lot many perspectives and your own proportions..

The Second Stage:  Expectations Stage

You love being carried away lot many times in this stage. You start expecting from the other end. This is the stage of what I term the Obsession stage (Expectations based on your Requirements). In this stage the control on your hormonal rage seems uncontrollable, where every thought of your beloved takes of lot of your time and you enjoy doing it. You sleep more to dream a bit more. A new type of chemical reactions in you where you feel that u are on some dose of cocaine and enjoying it. A little closeness a touch gives you adrenaline rush, restless heart beats and some stupid disorders sleeplessness low appetite or heavy appetite :D contantly waiting for the next time for meeting and to experience some similar things.(A total waste of time) You any ways love staying stuck in this stage. Unlike in small screen, life is all about moving on.

The Third Stage: Realization Stage

This is quite a critical stage where you either discover that’s it’s the end of your relationship and you depart or you choose to stick to each other. Here these hormonal rush are settled down and reach the next stage of love. A strong bonding takes over and both try to understand each other well.

The Fourth Stage : Happily Ever After

All the stages love have its flavour and unique character. I can’t say this is the final stage though but yes it’s a great achievement where there is more giving than expecting everything falls in line. You understand the need before they are spoken. Life seems easier with each other, as you have completed a long journey with your partner J

All I want to conclude over here is following a normal path is very important than to go on jumping from one partner to other and enjoying just one flavour specially the second stage which seems more exiting J .love worth a try to understand your self more.

--- Cheers  

Garima singh.