Chemical Reactions

Every time we see a girl and a boy together giggling a little more than needed.. Our head thinks a common thing.” Definitely there is something more than friendship between them”. Perhaps it’s our Indian brains which often tend to see what we want to see. Most of us are too obsessed with these amusive affairs.

It’s too good to see romance be it live or on screen right!

 The male star drooling at the lady of his life and the girl gazing back at him. Where everything happens in a slow motion... the girl slips and exactly, at that time the male lead comes to hold her from falling and the background music playing all the tantrums stopping those moments for the duo to make some interesting stuck ked chemistry .... Which talks lot more than what’s being shown. Well that’s all about TRPs because nobody  here’s  interested to see things end up with few scene’s, where both of them agree with the love and end these cozy scenes. Well if both the leads loose interest in making these scenes and end up settling down with each other and live like a normal happy couple… Hmm  what would be left for the audience..... We all love the rush of adrenaline and excitement that comes from watching these scene.

It would have been good, if even in real life we could stay stuck with these stages where we never declare the end of this (wating in obsession for love) stage drooling at each other isn't it.

In Our real life -crush, love, lust, affair or whatever we name em' happens in phases which either end up with a broken heart with lesson learnt or a strong bond with a mature relation and lot many more thing which we go on learning at every next step.

These phases as I read and understood I would like to divide into 4 stages.

The first stage:  Attraction stage

Attraction the word itself talks out loud, it can be the first stage of getting together for relations ship which may or may not occur (completely depends on the two people ).

 As soon you grow up and understand the difference between genders there is much more interest that come from our inner self to know a bit more than u have told about the other gender. This interest while you grow up changes to another interest which can be termed differently based on the intensity of your mental or physical needs.

 I know am being too open about this topic but I believe I have right to express my thoughts.

Anyways I would like to extend a bit more about this interest or attraction from a male perspective, attraction for another girl is a little or more but can be termed to lust or true intentional love.. Boys are either completely crazy about the beauty with little brains or no brains :P or fall for a too caring and loving girl with an understanding nature. Girls don’t be much bothered when your guy looks at another girl while he is with you. Its common men’s tendency to check every girl till the point he could extend his view :-D. Play smart don’t stop or ask  for any reason he would just lie. Here I would reveal one more secret, at times the girl may or may not be very good at looks but Guys find her interesting if some other boy is already looking at her ;)

Here I am not being biased

From female perspective attraction is all about what she wants  it could be the attention and importance in term of pampering her, caring her,  loving her, teasing her … be it from  very costly gift or sparing your time.  Strength power and position are quiet important for any girl (Now only your girl can answer whether she want to see that currently or in your future being with you).

Now that’s how attraction starts. Lots of chemical reactions inside you and based on lot many perspectives and your own proportions..

The Second Stage:  Expectations Stage

You love being carried away lot many times in this stage. You start expecting from the other end. This is the stage of what I term the Obsession stage (Expectations based on your Requirements). In this stage the control on your hormonal rage seems uncontrollable, where every thought of your beloved takes of lot of your time and you enjoy doing it. You sleep more to dream a bit more. A new type of chemical reactions in you where you feel that u are on some dose of cocaine and enjoying it. A little closeness a touch gives you adrenaline rush, restless heart beats and some stupid disorders sleeplessness low appetite or heavy appetite :D contantly waiting for the next time for meeting and to experience some similar things.(A total waste of time) You any ways love staying stuck in this stage. Unlike in small screen, life is all about moving on.

The Third Stage: Realization Stage

This is quite a critical stage where you either discover that’s it’s the end of your relationship and you depart or you choose to stick to each other. Here these hormonal rush are settled down and reach the next stage of love. A strong bonding takes over and both try to understand each other well.

The Fourth Stage : Happily Ever After

All the stages love have its flavour and unique character. I can’t say this is the final stage though but yes it’s a great achievement where there is more giving than expecting everything falls in line. You understand the need before they are spoken. Life seems easier with each other, as you have completed a long journey with your partner J

All I want to conclude over here is following a normal path is very important than to go on jumping from one partner to other and enjoying just one flavour specially the second stage which seems more exiting J .love worth a try to understand your self more.

--- Cheers  

Garima singh.