May It don't be just a Calender change!

13 ! Though it Doesn't sound lucky enough to many, I hope It turns out to be far better than 2012,
I did have my part of good moments over the bad ones last year.
yet 2012 some how ended with trauma and agony, Which is not allowing some of us to celebrate the all new 2013 whole heartily,
Yet I HOPE this new year won't just be a change of calender for all of us,,
May our thoughts change , May our perspectives change , May our conditions change , May the circumstances change towards sanguine.


May we are not given reason to saturate of eyes, May people be blessed with strength to fight for the right and on right things in right direction. May life be easier and the grief be abate.

May love replaces all the antagonistic feelings. May we never allow anybody to hurt us nor others.
May affection flows all over in all the relation, May we all love our family friends just like we love self,
May god bless you all with all your wishes.
Happy new year - 2013.

~ Garima Singh ~

ABIDE

A revolution is impossible without a revolutionary situation; furthermore, not every revolutionary situation leads to revolution.

I am with the protest and the revolution that is conquering a big section of India today. I really hope that this section becomes a little more robust and persuasive thus, successful in changing the other section further rapidly .... though this is going to be tough; yet I Hope this happens some day soon.

RAPE seems a common word these days everywhere on news, discussions, papers debates what not. Here My question is why no one takes these things up before any catastrophe happen. better late than never at least now it feels assured that every parent are teaching their child about this. I remember my school days, I never heard this term. Some how India needs (sex education) to educate their upcoming juvenile generation in a proper way; what they should never allow with them to happen.

They should also educate that there shouldn't be any discrimination with gender, As we were taught that there shouldn't be any with caste or religion. I wonder how many of us follow it, Every one did until we were in school no idea what went wrong when we grew up.

May be things change when we see the real world it talks something completely different and we just emancipate those words those quotes. :'(

I remember stories about Indian history which talks how the lower cast people were ill treated by the upper cast they were just like slaves living a disgusted life conjecturing they are bound to. A similar life style is being followed by a female section in India, I suppose the humiliation, physical or mental harassment  the torture is part of this discrimination.

Rape isn't just about a forceful sex, or physical harassment Its about few brutal humans who went a way beyond insanity to show women "this is your place". (Again Gender discrimination).

Few things from our customs needs to be changed vigorously, Though we see women getting equal rights to pursue the way to their dreams I wonder how many of us are given freedom to choose those path.Not to mention we still have few educated family who never agree for their wives or daughters to let go and show courage to run parallel with the society but yea it would be different if it comes to their son.Most of our family always demands a son, Wonder how many pray to have a daughter.  A girl is impure if she is having her menstrual cycle but nothing for the guy who goes out and molest girls on street.

Stop discrimination at home I would say that's basic way to start the change, yes we are changing and all I will say is to Abide with this change and sustain this feeling that pierced you deep inside.

Its easy to forget and that's what happens every time  If we remember we had uncountable number of similar cases like the Guwahati one, the German girl who was raped in Goa and killed, and we have many more which are not even registered. What happens is, News comes in media and people talk talk and talk about it, then forget.

So if we really want something to change we need be the change and make sure the change is not vanished after a period.

concluding here on a lighter note.

Time to chAnGe .... teach your daughters to be strong and bold to face the world and teach your sons not to mess with them ;-)

love your Mom, daughters, sisters, girlfriends /friends, Wife........ WOMEN cuz they are the reason that we all are here

जलाओ दीये पर रहे ध्यान इतना

अँधेरा धरा पर कहीं रह न जाए ।

-----Gopaldas Neeraj

-Cheers
Garima Singh

Salaam Karne ki arzoo hain ..

Labzon mai kya karen bayan, jo woh  isharon se keh gaye

garje bhi na the woh  badal, hum yuhi darr gaye.

Kya khoob the who lamhe,  ab sochtein hai hum

Nigaho hi nigahon mai huzur humse, kya kuch na keh gaye…

Silences Redefined !

I have no idea if I should be publishing this post, but yes I know why I am writing it.

Since 2010 Writing /writing this blog is not just a hobby, it’s been much more. I connect myself, my feelings, and my morals to these articles while I write. They have been part of collection of things I have learnt growing up, a bunch of good and bad memories described defined and contemplated. When I write, it gives me a feeling like am reliving few moments.

I love reading and rereading them as well :-). Funny isn't it:-D

So here is one more to the hierarchy.........

This describes a whole consistently changing pattern of emotions experienced with in a span of 30 hours.

So here enters a girl who has this “like I care” Attitude about her dressing sense in a room of partially known congregation. People around are in Awe to her appearance today and all are complementing about her looks, supposedly stuck with a high CONFIDENCE she started posing for camera.

 Meanwhile she gets ALARMED of someone looking at her. A wave of CONSCIOUNESS runs down her nerves. It was not the first time she was looking at him, yet there was something very new and fresh which left her CONFUSED thinking what it was? And why she is all COLD and NERVOUS. As if she was supposed to write an exam for which she wasn’t prepared.

She tried breathing few deep breaths, counting down numbers but unfortunately nothing worked out. Time arrived when he came up and stood just beside her,

Though the hall was heavily crowded, her head was in astonishment upon a question which SURPRISED her right that moment “How come only presence of someone makes such difference to me”

It took good time for both of them to exchange the salutations yet as time passed pleasant WARMTH replaced the NERVOUSNESS, which was completely vanished once he bowed down his head to make sure she was comfortable.

She made a vow to herself that ever in future if conditions of stress appear between them she will always try to be the first to bow down to resolve it.

People came in batches to greet them both; she stood there for really long time with him thinking about things she wanted to share with him. Certainly it wasn’t the right time. She just BLUSHED every time he looked at her. Everything ended well, the crowd was reduced.

That night though she came back home alone, She had his thoughts lingering her mind and a sleepless night passed on with an EXPECTATION of seeing him again the next day.

Sunrays arrived with warmth to make her more CHEERFUL; No idea why she was so FASCINATED and then when she met him she was all ENTHUSIATIC, may be time was more graceful to her that they could spend a really long time together.

No much discussion not many words there were more silences which made her SHY and PRUDENT at the same time, they had many eye contacts which seemed soothing and glee.

Time was up and she had plans to leave, He caught her hand for a moment may be accidentally and oscillations between yes and no started in her head. she was EXCITED to stay back and WORRIED at the same time thinking it’s a bad idea.  

She made a last call in an EMPTINESS to greet him bye. Well she thought that was how it was supposed to end with a little ANGER on self.

Lying down in DISAPPOINTED she was still immersed in thoughts while her phone rangs, she knew it was him far before checking the phone.

There were more silences in the conversation yet she felt like she understood exactly what he meant what he was going through, As if he was not very far but sitting opposite to her.

The most wonderful feeling was when they broke the silence the words were very much expected; just like some incident which was repeated in her mind and suddenly she encountered it in real.

Bewildered with so many thoughts of him, she had an uncontrollable smile on her face that night till she could fight back her rigorously fluctuating feelings to calm down her senses which made her heart beats far faster.

I don't know if I have achieved or lost something with in those 30 hours but yes they will always stay in the list of most valuable moments of my life.

--hume tumse pyar kitna ye hum bhi nahi jaante magar jee nahi sakte tumhare bina J

~cheers~

Garima singh

Another Phase of Life…

It’s been long that I had written something and posted on my wall. Well My bad, I haven’t been very focused to writing these days, lot of things happening around me and of course with me, that I feel, I am just lost, and been wandering for peace and stability of mind for few days.

Things seemed almost messed up in every area.

Thanks to the newcomer ;-) that few disturbances are good enough that they go giggling me around, but the others ones, happening frequently are too lamentable.

The other day I found a cute kid, playing with colored pebbles, initially throwing them with all his force and then going in a search to find and collect them back in his pocket, I wondered how innocent the idea of this game is.

I was curious to help him out, I asked if I could join him and with a warm smile he welcomed.

Thus we became a team and while we both were in the process, we found more pebbles than the number of what we threw on step one.
 When I argued, that few of the collected stones are not very smooth and don’t belong to the set which we threw, perhaps we are still left with few more to be found. The kid smiled back and said "does it matter, we have collected 25 stones... while I threw only 15 of them and I like their color I will keep them all". It was amazing to see what a magnificent attitude he carried. I kissed him and paused for something in reply, and the boy ran away lolzz.

He thought me few things that day, which I guess I already knew, but maybe I lost them somewhere growing up.

 It took me really long to understand that-- judging myself through someone else eyes makes no sense to me and to my life, And whether we understand it or not everything in life eventually get arranged in the perfect order, yea at times it need your strength and commitments to see everything fell in the right place.

There is nothing called a problem, it’s only a challenge or an opportunity to learn..

 Certainly it’s not very important that all your expectations are being worked upon /fulfilled. Rather life is easier without these expectations. If you don’t expect anything from anybody you will never be disappointed.

  

Put efforts and challenge yourself every day which make you happy. If you are going on and off with something and ideas are being conflicting in your mind….Take risk commit mistakes well I will say that’s how you grow. But try it rather than just thinking about it.

Sometimes we don’t get what all we wanted but if you can find happiness in the thing you got, enjoy it.

While I was thinking for long and waiting at my staircase I found the boy coming towards me,I bent down and he thanked me giving me two pebbles  saying "its yours " and asked if we can play carom together, Well I had nothing to say I nodded my head. :-D

Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they'll love you back! Its not necessary to expect  returns always ; just wait for things to grow in their heart, but if it doesn't, be content enough to  grew it in yours.

Cheers to life

~Garima singh~

Often We miss things we have..!

I wonder, all the while, when you give a smile
Theres a strong feeling like, I have no where to go..
It fills emptiness,and pleases my head 
I'M too tender, don't ask me to show ..

--- Garima

Often when I am low and deeply drowned in my thoughts, I reach a peak where, I feel I am talking to myself, discussing my problems & solutions with the person who resides in me, I know I sound psychic, Some of you reading this will say “you need a doctor “
But sometimes it does happen.

 I talk thought I can’t hear anything. I don’t speak anything. Yet I do talk,and  very loud, so loud that things reverberate in my mind to find solutions, more often explanation, or dimensions and aspects of so many things going on around and with me they even show vague images, gestures of "what if" and "why nots"

There are times when I feel, as if I have always been waiting / desiring to be something else, becomes something... I am actually not or may be something I am on a verge of becoming. Waiting for a life that I would have. silly me :D


 When I was very small may be before 3rd standard I used to compete for the first position no matter for what it was, always challenged myself, though rarely succeeded, but before I could enjoy my success, I found myself in a rush to participate for the next level.

I Was...I guess, desperate! to know what’s next and what’s coming up for me.... The ratio of failure were much more than success, yet never lost the idea of waiting and desiring to grow up fast to reach out things faster. 

And then Once I bid adieu to school the modus operandi never changed. And now that I am working I look back and I feel all the while I was just waiting and here My life is passing, day by day, and I am waiting for it to start up with something new . I am waiting for that time, or may be that person, that event when my life will finally begin all fresh …… this is really funny!!!

 It’s not that I haven’t lived or enjoyed it , but there was something missing something that i wanted and I was waiting for that something which I missed or maybe I dint, I just dint understand whether I was provided by sufficient things or I just dint see them in my pocket.

And then after thinking all these stuff when I Slowly I reached out to an edge of my pocket and I found something which may be I had for a while but forgotten that it was still with me. I smile carelessly and now from nowhere my mind got a quote  searched who the author was as usual google uncle helped -- its john lennon
“Life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans”

And while I smile I saw A person smiling back at me, a really beautiful unpretentious smile which made me pause and enjoy a complete confusing yet alluring moment I dedicate the above poem to that smile.

We are always left some small surprises in our pockets certainly we miss reaching out to them. No wonder we go searching for few happiness all along the world outside, perhaps we should also give importance to those small things which reside with us, which can always give u a cheerful push to continue the race.

--- Cheers
Garima singh :)

SPOUSE / ESPOUSE ;-)

So what’s your opinion on the guy; did you like him?

Though, I dint answer that question right away, or I can say I dint say anything, but the question did raise many more questionnaire in my mind...

"Am I ready for it"?
"Should I be answering this question"?
"Why not love marriage"?
"Will my answer, be right one "?
"What am I doing"?
“Why this early”?
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And at the end "Why Marriage "?

Funny isn't it, and a way pathetic too because, being an Indian citizen marriage doesn't comes to you as a choice, it’s a compulsion. Sooner or later you are supposed to be married. While I was gazing over and over again on the compass of "Why Marriage”. I was amazed to find myself thinking so patiently and indubitably for the first time on something that made me overwrought on the first step.

People and your parents find you completely absurd if you ask this question, “Why marriage” is it necessity? They think that your perspectives are very much wrong, you are trying to be and behave like someone who don’t belong to their own roots, But I feel it’s necessary to ask question (like we were always taught in our early days of schools and colleges) ask questions to yourself before you start up with anything not cuz, you are trying to be against to it, but to get a better understanding on it.

it’s very much required for you to be sure about what you want and why. It’s better that you be familiar to all the pros and cons, than to be in an imaginative world and complain later about everything.

Marriage is a commitment no matter if it’s a love marriage or arranged, it’s a commitment between two people to accept few good and few 'not- so-good-things' about the other person and sacrificing some of our own beliefs. It’s a two sided barter system (you get things only if you give). Always be prepared for a worst case (Life is not a movie to be sure that everything’s going to be good, though you play lead in your story) and thereby you can be more cheerful, confident rather than expecting a complete optimistic role model in your partner and then getting hurt later when things don't go as you had expected it to be.

When I moved further into the context of “why marriage” I Looked at it as everyone does Marriage is nothing but a ways of transforming yourself from I to WE…
Till you are single you live your life on your own terms, the choices you make are all yours, your dreams, aims, aspirations, lifestyle … But when two people (couple) comes together they start up everything with a togetherness and Acceptance .

I feel I am thinking a way too much about it but somehow I feel I am in better place when compared to those who think about why I am married after getting into it. One should try to understand what marriage is – It’s a strive towards acme of mingling of two people from different background, lifestyles, taste, choices, and so many other things just because there is much more appeasing life ahead which would beyond ones individuality  a support system for rest of the life.

So Sooner or later whatever happens in this case would be good, all depends on the choice to trust. It’s never about love or arranged, what matters is you have to make it work cuz it doesn’t happens by itself. It’s never a one day show, rather It’s a very long journey of next 40 to 50 years where you may get bumping ride with not so good path at early stages, which may turn to a smoother highway.. Whatever comes up difficulties, darkness, narrow curvy lanes you need to be together to guide each other, praise, care and comfort each other after all it’s a long really very long way to go.

Winding up with a lovely quote I found

" A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person".

Ahem I really don't mind :-P

~cheers~
Garima singh. :-)

We all are mirrors !!!!

Oh well that was so much expected from you…

You are always like this …

Will you be ever changing yourself?

Stop criticising me …..

So how many of us are bugged up hearing this? Or shall I frame it like, how many of us use these lines for others more often.

As someone said every one is a moon and all have their dark side which they certainly never show… though this line softly breezes inside our mind, comprehending us with what the actual conditions or contingencies are but in tough or high times we altercate with our inner voice or conscience, Pushing our self to the right side or positive side blaming the others.

One needs to put in some patience to understand the Where, When What went wrong and Why including the perspectives from other side or a neutral one.

In these situations if someone speaks aggressively without understanding the facts things reverts to them. Procrastinating is not always good, But taking time to make up any decision and giving some time to relax to few acerbic things inside you causes no big harm.

We all are Mirrors we see what we want to see in others ... we show them what we want them to see....Choice still remains with us.

"A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world: everyone you meet is your mirror."

-Ken Keyes Jr.

Cheers ..

~Garima Singh~

Why is it so important to be LOVED

Life …..It gives so much of excitement, loads of courage... Shaky waves to experience peaks of trills..... Calmness of loneliness, pains of emptiness and then it goes on…It’s a complete roller-coaster ride.

Every small thing happening around transfers some emotion into you, or may be some sort of feeling

For an example - When you see a couple immensely into love.. then either you fly away ... wuffffffff...... into past, imagining some good memories or you become upset remembering few bad ones and at times excited thinking about future lol :-D.

Why is it so important to be in love or to be loved, sometimes I conclude saying...

                               We are hungry ... maybe we all are always for love.. True love....

No matter, from where it comes to us. We are in a consistent search of it; we bow a bit towards people who provide it to us. Be it a person from your family or your whole family. your kid who cheer you up  by his innocence , mom who worries for you for no reason, a life partner/ lover who gives almost everything unconditionally or conditionally :-P…..a friend who teases you and then pleases you, a teacher who is always concerned about you, ….. Love is always pure and perfect in itself, no matter in which form it comes to you.

 You never need to compare it or measure it.

People fall in love instantly or maybe they go on for trial and error ;-). Will he/she be the right person I can continue loving for my whole life :-P…. This mostly happens with a classmate or a colleague, a Friend; long or short term.. You are so busy with other stuff that you try finding connections nearby.

Some time I wonder how people tend to search for love on social networking, or just they are too busy with their schedule that these so called online friends comes on easy reach and handy to them J.

  I am not against to making friendship online and… ahem you know what I mean, but you never know that how many times you go on trials to hit the bulls eye without knowing if the person you had a good friendship online were actually serious about you. Neither do you be sure of being serious and with whom actually you were serious (well people genuinely go for a mass trials :-P ;making friendship with X num of people).

Based on few thought which I expressed above I am writing a story ….

And before you drop reading or you continue……. thank you for reading my posts J

Here's an extract of a story I started writing.....Titled

 "Well it’s a roller-coaster ride"

She was persuading her reluctant thoughts when someone called her from back

“Hey … It is you”

Trying audaciously to come out of the buzz of her thoughts she saw a familiar face. The voice seemed pleasant and sweet it helped her to pull herself out of the bewildered compass. 

“ Riya ! Oh my god it’s you … you look great.. How have you been?”

She felt a quiver of shock inside her chest to hear her name, at the same time was trying hard to remember the one who was standing infront of her with such a warm smile. 
 She was worried of making him despair by not recollecting any memory about him, who was continuosly speaking to her. But other than the smile which reminded her a kid who met her years ago, she couldn't figure out anythingelse.

He Interupted her vague though's, "Riya are you all right, you seem lost .What is it dear "

She was completely clueless. Finally she gave up and asked " I am sorry, Do we know each other ?"

There was a silence of 2 mins and then he said " Well I am the one whom you asked to forget you." 

she glanced his face one more time.

He repeated  "yea you asked me to forget you,  I have no idea why you did all that, but it was hard to forget you and I still love you "

She was dumbstruck with the words spoken by a complete stranger or may be he wasn't a stranger. Deep inside her heart she was bang with a flash of guilt, she felt as if she'll broke into tears. The stranger left her again into further deeper vague of thoughts........  !!!

Some more paintings..

Well this one was the first when I restarted discovering about my love towards colors Loved painting this .....my Aim was to show, No matter what the problem is you always need a friend who can just cheer you up and force in some strength in you to face them :)

This was when I wanted to gift something to one of my very close friend ...

Hmmm one more silhouette to my list :) 

well I guess I need to work on how to draw faces and features properly :-S ..

Will Add more in here soon ..... :)

-- Cheers 

Garima singh....

Whenever I am hurt :(

Whenever I am hurt, I understand two things very clearly

1. I still own my little soft heart

2. I gave permission to someone to hurt it- Its My mistake.. :( :'(

-Gary

I strongly believe that always misunderstandings ..tough times occurs between friends and these are all part of any relationship. There is nothing wrong to bow a little contradicting your ego if you want to sustain the relation. If you go on blaming the other person then there is no reason to hold on with that person, and in a way you are hurting yourself and the other person as well. Rather end things up or just forget, things are never going to work anyway.

As I always say that tough/ unmanageable conditions happens But its important to concentrate on solution rather than discussing and elongating the problem itself

Yet...Cheers :)
--Garima singh

KyON ? nA BOLE mose mohan KyoN?

Trust is a big thing and understanding is another.... If you carry both, for a person then that person is surely a true friend of yours.

These friends you never know, when they become important to you, you love spending time with them ... you feel lighter when you are around them. It really doesn't matter whether they consider you important or not. Its never important to be center of attraction among them, the leader or head to whom  the rest listen, you just love to get teased , you enjoy teasing them, annoying them, pleasing them and at times making them feel they are the very special people in your life :-) and  I am lucky to have a group of such people with me.

At times it happens that you become unhappy with that person leavin u behind for the  timebeing or for the rest of life.. .. right !
and when that person doesn't understand, the reason behind you being agitated or disturbed..... you feel more depressed. Most of us tend to get irritated and angry and the rest goes worse - we fight with our loved ones and situation gets more complicated :-/ .

I don't know if in these conditions its easy to talk, But yes, One thing what I am sure about is - Its easier to stay calm when you are angry ..... stay away if you can't hold the agitation.. caused by detachment of someone. At times under agitation you loose your control on your head and words spoken to some one who is important to you can harm your relationship. The further damages would be a little long lull between the two person. You are left with..... if I dint...  I shouldn't have....... why did I ... kind of things :-D

Readers are open to provide their thoughts and advises :-)

Most of the troubles comes from misunderstandings so my .....last thought of the day

“We're all born with selfish desires, so we can all relate to those feelings in others. But kindness is something made individually by each person...so it's easy to misunderstand when others are trying to be kind to you."-- NATSUKI

 -- Cheers
Garima singh

An Abrupt Discussion!

Few days back.... It was a Wednesday or Thursday I don't exactly remember, But I do remember the conversation I had with a very close friend of mine..

 Aashi hmm... I don't know whether I should apologize to him ...for eating away his  brains every evening, specially when he is literally very tired, I never let him sleep in the bus and start up some unending discussion -> which at time becomes one sided, lolzz  hands off to his patience :) and his capability to listen to all  the senseless issues I go on with. 

Though the discussion I am talking about wasn't that senseless and one sided it was about Dreams and what all we dream, why n how they come to our head and.... how good and creative our brain could be at times...that it gives you scope to think in a complete new angle to start up something , If in case you remember those dreams.

I have few of my short stories on them, some paintings and few very thought provoking incidents that came in as illusion or dream, which held me up to make up some good decisions and habits :)

I believe there is a person inside us which makes us see what all our possibilities are.... now its on us how much importance we give to it. or if we ignore it. This person visualize lot of things, you see everything, feel it and then you are positive with certain conditions and negative with the rest. but this inner person tries to think beyond whatever you see ... calculates it keep a tik ahead with future summarizing the past... May be its the same person who makes you dream  ....More than what you can think. I know I know I sound absurd at times 

But what if i term this insider as our Partial brain or instinct huhh...

I don't  know how to conclude this blog may be Its again something too psychological :-D Even the Discussion was abrupt though ...... hahaha

Hmm but I would write a little more  about dreams in some other Forum 

- cheers 

Garima Singh

And I'm Numb again..!

Times when I regret few moments, Hope they never took place

My throat's chocked, bruises inside my heart; I badly crave solace..

Its tough to understand the pain inside, it just goes louder and strong 

Time is a fraudster, Who can explain me, when and where did I go wrong

I am tired of all lies, the ugly faiths and the trampling consuetudes

Things disguises me till the core and am done with these attitudes. 

 I am Numb again, confused how to react to the affliction 

Life seems baseless, efforts seem aimless am left in depression.

ARE you trYing tO fliRt with me eh’?

And here comes the much awaited topic on which I discussed with many of my friends’, colleagues and not much known public around…..

Flirting – and synonyms of it.

I know most of you reading this, will be wondering why is this girl writing about such a genuine thing..

 Ahem Ahem, ahhh…….. No need to guess that you all know, very much and very well about it, Still as a part of my analysis, I came to know that though its quiet a common thing but the perspectives on it vary from person to person.

So why don’t I summarize things I felt were really good in here :-D

I got lot many definitions of it, and I picked up a random one which attracted me on an instance. Here it is

“Flirting is the gentle art of making a one feel pleased with him or her.”

--Helen Rowland

But again "Flirting is the art of keeping your affections and inwardness at a safe distance" Agreed??

For most of us it just comes as a part of our attitude! I wouldn’t say flirting is bad, cuz…. even if people say, flirting is all absurd thing, generally no one really mean it ;-)

Flirtation is something like attention without intention. The whole world seeks attention so if someone gets it without much reason they just feel good. And who don’t want to feel good huhh !!!!

Unintentional romance or teasing comes in day-today life while an informal conversation at times we realize it as flirting or often it’s ignored. People generally tend to say things which are straight lie, and the other listening it, agrees with the fact but still, they continue with it .. cuz this kind of fun and keeps the atmosphere active and light. Flirting; to be very frank is a complete act of making serious impact of flattery on one or more person. More often as few study says it’s a good way of improving confidence in people around you.

Like in --

“ hey buddy you look awesome today” Now does it really matter, if the person is really looking like Some Hollywood star no naah.

“ Wow what a smile; you look beautiful when you wear your smile“  

Say this to a person and he or she would definitely smile for next 4 to 5 times they remember your compliments.

These are few positives let me include few negatives as well, whenever we flirt ....as there is no measuring scale , which can calculate the amount of flirt is less or more so, we need to keep a check on the circumstances , surroundings, marital status :P.. Mental status of your partners and of course lot many more things.

One need to know with whom to flirt, how much to flirt and when to :P.

Girl :“Dude you look awesome “

Boy : Oh thanks

Boy’s girlfriend : #$$%$^^%^% (keep a distance from him )

Lolzz

Flirtations are still, good when they are only soft and verbal… simple and only for cheerful fun… as there are rules in everything few rules even apply in here. Flirting should be avoided if the person is serious about the relationship, be it a separate relation or a relation with you. One should never take any risk with relationships. and in case you try moving beyond taking risk it wouldn't be flirting its called cheating :-/   Intimacies shouldn’t be part of flirting .. I am not describing this further.... cuz am sleepy :-P

Concluding with few common lines we hear here and there ;-) are at times good to use as well :D

“Oops! I lost my mobile number! Could I have yours?”

“Can’t wait until tomorrow, because I bet that you get more and more beautiful everyday.”

“Did the sun just come out or did you just smile at me?”

“You remind me of my next girlfriend.”

“It’s okay ….. you don’t have to stop staring”

“Single and looking… anyone wanna be found?”

“Come live in my heart, and pay no rent.”

And my favourite one -----

question :ARE you trYing tO fliRt with me eh’ … ?

answer : Naah, it comes naturally!! Rather I would say you are beyond flattery ;-)

Signing off – Would continue this not so cool yet hiped topic under some other forum....

------Cheers

 Garima singh J

Affliction

The secret of success is learning how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. If you do that, you're in control of your life. If you don't, life controls you.

-Tony Robbins

Pain and pleasure are both part of your life, fortunately or unfortunately we all go through them, though we run behind the latter one and escape from the former one.

 We need to agree immense pleasure or intense pain tends to change our physical behaviour and mental status. At times the changes are good,  if  u experince happiness following those changes ; on the contrary, its always better to have a reality check, whether we are still on right path, and not going on to a pessimistic darkness.

If you feel any such thing at any time, first thing one must try is, find a trustworthy person to whom who can talk about whatever is going on. Don’t tempt to find solutions of your problems right away, that way.... we generally land up screwing up something, hurting others and self as well.

If you are unable to find any person as in my case:-D I start scribbling things out on paper or on my blog. It’s as if I am talking to myself explaining and again understanding what could be done. It helps J always. Don’t persist the pain inside it's of no use.

Most of the people try crying even that helps and if it does, do it. I believe tears don't always signifies the weak; crying is very much human.

If something or someone is bothering you keep distance from them. Be selfish enough to grab moments which can console you. And never forget you are very important and no one in this world needs to justify thatJ. If you are angry on someone or others are angry with you, find the solution rather than the cause and give space and time to yourself and also others.

Concluding with few lines from William Arthur Ward

“Before you speak, listen.

Before you write, think.

Before you spend, earn.

Before you invest, investigate.

Before you criticize, wait.

Before you pray, forgive.

Before you quit, try.

Before you retire, save.

Before you die, give.”

If there is a confession to be made, just go ahead. As someone said - A confession has to be part of your new life; things will definitely move more smooth after that.

--- Note this is not an apology letter..cuz I wasn’t wrong; but yea I always want my friends to be happy , afflictions are too bad for anybody…. so huhhh would definitely attempt for a cute “ I am sorry -please smile”  kinda thing. Hope my frenz do the same ;-)

Friends do take care of your friends as well.

Cheers :-)

Garima Singh

30 odd minutes of Misconceptions

Life is full of uncertainties and surprises.
Most of the times the later ones are so good that we almost forget what we were up to, what was going on, our down times , sorrows , tensions whatever.
But we can't skip the antonym of it .. HA HA

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Hmm so feb 14th is gone and also its fever from so many heads :-D.
This time nothing other than those 50 % OFF offers impressed me much. I mean those RED color every where, hearts n hearts designs on every silly thing  :-P.
I truly never do understand, why we celebrate love on one specific day, in some special way as decided by some one long ago :-P. Specially in a way that's so expensive,come on if someone is special for you why not keep surprising them, making a lil effort every month ... :-D okay twice/thrice in a years ha ha

I completely Abhor the Idea of celebrating some feeling on a particular day. Be it Fathers day , Mothers day , friendship day, valentines day huhh.

So, it was few days before valentine's day and I was as usual roaming around to find and collect some goodies for my self utilizing those offers ;-) 

A friend of mine called me up and asked what to buy for his BF she was quiet confused.. I suggested some usual stuff .. she wasn't much satisfied though, but i had no much option other than hanging up.

As few of my friends say it, most of the time "I am quiet a good observer ;)"

Just when I attempted to cut the call. I found a Girl staring at me very weirdly ... and then at my wallet as if it was hers and then my footwear ahem ahem , I was quiet confused like WHAT ....

And then she started furiously checking her handbag... It din't took me much time to figure out what she was doing. LOLzz she lost her phone

Ahhhhhh Mobile phones are almost like an important organ of our body, we carry it everywhere and become paralyzed with out it ;-) Some thing similar happened with this girl. and like a good girl I went up to her and asked her what was wrong (though i knew) she said the same thing yea yea giving the details of the feature of her mobile :-D. She remembered about her mob when she saw me talking on phone.

I left her consoling a bit to try a pair of tops, When i was back from the changing room I saw a Guy standing quiet a distance..  staring at the same girl who lost her phone.. to my surprise this girl was talking on a phone but the phone was some local phone not the Ericsson which she told me.

Hmm Now one more twist happened . this girl hit a num an the rings started coming up from the pocket of the guy who was staring her. She was wandering keen to listen to the ring tone and move towards it. But the smart guy switched it off.

I was almost caught with the Idea of shouting CHOR CHOR. But I dint, Don't blame me friends its effects of the Crime investigations series I watch, I started following this guy. tin ti din tidin tidin tidin tadada taun ta da ta taun .... hahhahhaa

Hmm few places I just missed his sight, but again when I found him he was with this same girl. Now there was no end to my confusion.
I see this boy picks up his mobile try calling some number (their expression seemed as though they were trying to find the lost mobile).And a Phone rings But this time the ring tone was a bit different, he cut the call then ringed again.,
Repeated this 3 4 times to figure out where the rings were coming from at the end. This girl find a phone which was not her but was ringing with the calling number displayed was the boy's number hmm and few flowers and chocolates beside :-/.
 She gazed back at him with some confusion, and he takes out her lost phone from his pocket saying "I have placed your Sim in that Mobile".

I know you guys might be confused well even I was, seeing this CHOR gifting a Samsung galaxy's Android Piece .. to the girl :-D

Well surprises ;-)

Cheers have a good day ....

Wish .. I Was a BOY! :(

People generally say that behind every girls favorite song, is an untold story"

Hmmm then i would like to share mine 

main jahaan rahoon

main kahin bhi hoon

teri yaad saath hai

kisi se kahoon

ke nahi kahoon

yeh jo dil ki baat hai

kehne ko saath apane ek duniya chalti hai

per chhupke is dil mein tanhaayi palti hai

bas yaad saath hai

teri yaad saath hai

koi nayi duniya ke naye rango mein khush rehta hai

koi sab kuch paake bhi yeh mann hi mann kehta hai

I am standing here at the point where every next turn of mine effects my whole headed future....

Sometimes I try to understand the situations, no matter how bad it is, I try to find the solutions, enjoy the course but there are often situations that frustrate me completely, I mean seriously, I feel surrounded with pathetic circumstances, you don't know what to do? Why things happening with you. 

Well again that's So called life is, It can never be a smooth highway ... rather it’s all messed up.

At times so messy that you don't find where the path moves and where to take turn, all you can do is take the charge of cleaning the area and clear your path put efforts and your understandings to move forward. Everyone's rushing out there you can't take the risk of stopping at any point :(

But, how long! Where will this end. 

70% of my request always go bluntly with NO as its answer, Certainly 3 out 5 the reason behind it be that you are a girl. I know society is developing, people and their thinking is as well but yet there is no end to this reason that we get for all those NO's we get for our requests.

I agree These NO's are good for us and given to us from those who have got lot of concerns for us. But... :(

The desires they are all collapsed and zeal get diminished by these NO's . And again I have NO Idea what to do to stop these NO's I wish i was a boy. At least to enjoy a careless, carefree life. With again NO restrictions. No Timing. No unnecessary tension.

I envy you all guys you roam at nights with your friends; No one checks times for you. You have hell lot of your friends and no one dare to ask you the list. You or your dear ones don't have to be worried if you go alone anywhere. 

Why is that you get lot of choice to decide when you want to be committed, when you are ready to take responsibilities. You don't have to leave your parents your friends your place your lifestyle... whatever why is that expected from girls.......   The list goes on...

But if

I want to do something - A question arises WHY? 

I start doing something many more Questionaires WHAT for?

----- My third Poem 

Trembling somehow, when I reached some height, 

It was lovely to see those faces with joy,

yet I had to put my steps back, hearing the cry,

 "It’s too far my child", you are not a boy

Why everyone discriminate so much

I don't feel there is any need as such.

Boys you are lucky, you may be strong but you do annoy :-P

Whatever I am still good ,and thank god am not a boy 

-----Garima Singh

Sau dard hain Sau rahatein :)

sau dard hain,sau rahatein.............sab mila dilnashin........ek tuhi nahieeeeee.......

Kaisi chahat hai ye ,ya hai koi pagalpan
Kya pyar hai, kya kabhi pyar tha?
Jane kya dekha tha teri ankhon mai
Jo Hume teri har baat pe aietbaar tha

Unki ek jhalak ke didaar mai,
kut gaye kitnehi pal intezaar mai
thi katha kya, koun jaane
hum befikar they itne pyar mai.

Raat ki un tanhaayiyon se pucha
kya kabhi laut kar aayenge woh
Badale karvatein kayi par ..
paya bus unki yaadon ko .

Badalte rahe hum karwat sari raat iss kardar 

din ke unjaale toh hue,  par unke khayalo ne peecha na choda !!

Why to Preach things that U can't Practice :-P

The greatest success is being yourself, generally we become what we pretend to be, so be natural, be original don't be a copy.

And please stop Copy-pasting things that you even forget you read some where :-P
Start Practicing rather than preaching as it makes your life accustomed , defined by your ideals, not the negation of others. Dare to the level of your capability then go beyond to a higher level.

Don't do things that make you look cool/interesting or some stupid or similar thing , this is all MASQUERADE ..... I assume you are just misleading yourself, no idea if you are fooling others too but you are in a way faking yourself.

If it’s a part of following someone / something its different, because in that case you will add-in some of your instincts to improve yourself.

Well I have a small example over here -

In this era of social networking where certainly people have no time to sit with their family and share their happiness, we keep liking, commenting and complimenting others on their wall post or photographs:-P
Okay Okay, am diverting from my topic

So I had this example - there was a beautiful message (video) shared by one of my friend aaaah seriously lovely one which talks about why relationships break due to some misunderstandings :) and formulas to walk out of such situations.

Four of my friends shared it on their walls and I guess it was 40 odds who liked it, Now one of them just had their break up, and one other is having some issues, for ahem no serious reason.

You guys might be wondering - what the >&g; am going on writing under this forum- well simple to relate

We all have some problem we seriously don't admire anything, and if we do; we just do it because we find it a little interesting or just because many had liked it :-P. we don't learn anything out of it .... I mean if it had a message and you understood it, then what was wrong with you  to bring it to your reality and following it :-D.

It doesn’t make sense if you give speeches about life and its positive aspects and commit suicide the next day.

When anything is designed so well, why not to take the max benefit out of it.  ..... Be yourself follow what you want, learn it ;onlyIf you mean it..
 IT's a real world, just face it with what you really are :-)

Preach not because you have to say something, but because you have something to say.
--RICHARD WHATELY

Cheers-- Garima singh.