Thank YOU 2011; CHEERS -2012

Year 2011 – was one of the most wonderful years of my life … certainly I can say, I had altogether some different 365 days of my life.


I mean like previously when I took up celebrations of upcoming year there wasn’t much difference in them. We cut cake ate good food danced like mad monkeys and then 9 8 7 ….. 1 0 Happy New Year tanta daaaaaaaaaaaaan

Next day was the same I had to go to college or school. I wasn’t so sincere about anything else other than my education :)

But last 365 days were different, they have changed my way of thinking, my beliefs, my way of analysing and understanding things, I take up everything with equal sincerity and responsibility. I find myself standing here welcoming this new year with so many hopes, dreams and aims for every next tomorrow.

I believe everything that we learn is 20 % from your experiments and understandings 80 % from our surroundings. I feel am too lucky to be in such a surrounding where every new day brings in something new for me to learn.

Here I would like to THANK every new person who found me or whom I found around, be it  at my workplace, my bus stop, social networking site ;) mutual friends, friends from other workplace (who came in contact in time of my need or my friends need :D ). Life definitely wouldn’t have been this smooth without your help guys… One thing what I have learnt and adapted from all of you was, being open, being available and being helpful definitely becomes a benefit to people around you; but it eventually is a big benefit to you too :D.

Growing up was something that I always hated, don’t ask me why. But now hehe I take up every new twist as challenge Thanks to my family :)

I was so confused after my graduation where to land up, thanks to my bhaiyya (elder brother) helping me all the way, teaching me how to make and take decisions, pushing me at the points where I stood weak to boost me up.
Thanks to Anna Hazare, finally I got habituated to read newspaper, which I was trying hard for 7 months.

Thanks to all the eye candies ;) .. Boys you were all too good and helpful for teaching me peaks of fascination :-D.

Thanks to all my old friends who are still in contact. Though we talk once in a month or 2 but yet they make me feel nothing has changed between us :D. Love you friends you all are and always be the bindass bunch of superstars :D I had who keep shining always. Who try hard to make me smile and if I don’t, they tickle me so hard that I have to shout –“ab bus karo, jaan loge bacche ki ”

Thanks to my guru ji, you were a great influence for making me more optimistic and active.

I'll always be good to all of you, spare me if I commit any mistakes.

Though this sounds like thanks giving speech after some film fare award but thanks again for all your love and support.

May you all be blessed with what all you truly desire for, Be healthy, Be happy, Be positive and Be confident rest of things would definitely work well.

I have taken up my resolutions again and I must fulfil them unlike previous years :) and carry them forward effectively -do pray for me :D.

May every new day bring in lots of hopes and opportunities for you all. A Very HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.

Love you all, CHEERS :)

--Garima Singh

FRAME IT, The RIGHT Way !

"We learn something every day, and lots of times it’s that what we learned the day before was wrong."
—Bill Vaughan

At times things take time to digest, don't they? Yes I agree it may be because of our bad appetite but at times its cuz.. the thing that we ate was very wrong and not the apt what we should have taken.

Somewhat similar thing comes up in life. Many times we face situations where we surround our self with so many questions and try answering them, and lots of confusions and contradictions and created in our head because of these situations, all together just for the one previous step we have taken earlier.

We frame different opinions based on our perceptions, and it’s all our nature which tempt us to grow these perspectives, be it on a task you are doing (like your planning /work), or a person or anything. It’s risky to take decisions without much analysis; I agree that decisions must be quick but they need to be smart ones, but again you need to have a strong heart and head to bare the result (just like a healthy stomach to digest whatever comes in).

I have a nice incident which I read the other day

------ There was a young couple with their 2 year old child travelling in a train, They were enjoying a lot talking about their plans while to break their conversation a old man entered the compartment with his boy who was of 25 in age. The couple started wondering at the behaviour of this boy, who was very excited about the journey. He took the seat near the window and was gazing out.

Boy : papa look out the fields are so green and those house are so colourful.

Dad : yes they look lovely.

Boy : papa look at those birds they are moving in groups.

Dad : yes dear they always do move in groups

Boy : papa look this is a river we are crossing the bridge.

and the old man kept up his smile. Unable to bare the confusion this couple asked the old men, if his son was mentally challenged.

The old man smiled and replied that his boy had recently gone through his eye operation, which was successful and now he is able to see.

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Surprising isn't it, at times we form so wrong opinions on people, without analysing or enquiring much. Life makes us face many such situations and we don't try to learn anything from them.

 If you have taken anything wrong which you are unable to digest, you do try out to eat something that makes condition better don't you? This is what we should do when it comes up with any of your decisions /opinions / steps anything that went wrong.

If you have framed up, some wrong opinion on someone and now that you know what you felt/done was wrong give yourself another try and make things up. Lifez too short for misunderstandings, If you want to correct something do it right away!

------Cheers

Garima Singh

Chemical Reactions

Every time we see a girl and a boy together giggling a little more than needed.. Our head thinks a common thing.” Definitely there is something more than friendship between them”. Perhaps it’s our Indian brains which often tend to see what we want to see. Most of us are too obsessed with these amusive affairs.

It’s too good to see romance be it live or on screen right!

 The male star drooling at the lady of his life and the girl gazing back at him. Where everything happens in a slow motion... the girl slips and exactly, at that time the male lead comes to hold her from falling and the background music playing all the tantrums stopping those moments for the duo to make some interesting stuck ked chemistry .... Which talks lot more than what’s being shown. Well that’s all about TRPs because nobody  here’s  interested to see things end up with few scene’s, where both of them agree with the love and end these cozy scenes. Well if both the leads loose interest in making these scenes and end up settling down with each other and live like a normal happy couple… Hmm  what would be left for the audience..... We all love the rush of adrenaline and excitement that comes from watching these scene.

It would have been good, if even in real life we could stay stuck with these stages where we never declare the end of this (wating in obsession for love) stage drooling at each other isn't it.

In Our real life -crush, love, lust, affair or whatever we name em' happens in phases which either end up with a broken heart with lesson learnt or a strong bond with a mature relation and lot many more thing which we go on learning at every next step.

These phases as I read and understood I would like to divide into 4 stages.

The first stage:  Attraction stage

Attraction the word itself talks out loud, it can be the first stage of getting together for relations ship which may or may not occur (completely depends on the two people ).

 As soon you grow up and understand the difference between genders there is much more interest that come from our inner self to know a bit more than u have told about the other gender. This interest while you grow up changes to another interest which can be termed differently based on the intensity of your mental or physical needs.

 I know am being too open about this topic but I believe I have right to express my thoughts.

Anyways I would like to extend a bit more about this interest or attraction from a male perspective, attraction for another girl is a little or more but can be termed to lust or true intentional love.. Boys are either completely crazy about the beauty with little brains or no brains :P or fall for a too caring and loving girl with an understanding nature. Girls don’t be much bothered when your guy looks at another girl while he is with you. Its common men’s tendency to check every girl till the point he could extend his view :-D. Play smart don’t stop or ask  for any reason he would just lie. Here I would reveal one more secret, at times the girl may or may not be very good at looks but Guys find her interesting if some other boy is already looking at her ;)

Here I am not being biased

From female perspective attraction is all about what she wants  it could be the attention and importance in term of pampering her, caring her,  loving her, teasing her … be it from  very costly gift or sparing your time.  Strength power and position are quiet important for any girl (Now only your girl can answer whether she want to see that currently or in your future being with you).

Now that’s how attraction starts. Lots of chemical reactions inside you and based on lot many perspectives and your own proportions..

The Second Stage:  Expectations Stage

You love being carried away lot many times in this stage. You start expecting from the other end. This is the stage of what I term the Obsession stage (Expectations based on your Requirements). In this stage the control on your hormonal rage seems uncontrollable, where every thought of your beloved takes of lot of your time and you enjoy doing it. You sleep more to dream a bit more. A new type of chemical reactions in you where you feel that u are on some dose of cocaine and enjoying it. A little closeness a touch gives you adrenaline rush, restless heart beats and some stupid disorders sleeplessness low appetite or heavy appetite :D contantly waiting for the next time for meeting and to experience some similar things.(A total waste of time) You any ways love staying stuck in this stage. Unlike in small screen, life is all about moving on.

The Third Stage: Realization Stage

This is quite a critical stage where you either discover that’s it’s the end of your relationship and you depart or you choose to stick to each other. Here these hormonal rush are settled down and reach the next stage of love. A strong bonding takes over and both try to understand each other well.

The Fourth Stage : Happily Ever After

All the stages love have its flavour and unique character. I can’t say this is the final stage though but yes it’s a great achievement where there is more giving than expecting everything falls in line. You understand the need before they are spoken. Life seems easier with each other, as you have completed a long journey with your partner J

All I want to conclude over here is following a normal path is very important than to go on jumping from one partner to other and enjoying just one flavour specially the second stage which seems more exiting J .love worth a try to understand your self more.

--- Cheers  

Garima singh.

Badhti hunn mai har roz thoda thoda :D

Aaj hunn yaha phir andheke anjane rahon par

Mai khud na jaanu, ki mudna hai mujhko kis dagar?

Darti hunn aur bade hone se, sab kuch jaanne aur samajhne se,

Khair, Thodi mushkil ke sath hi sahi, ek aur manzil par karleti hunn

Sapne toh jaise  mere har lamhe kuch badh se jaate hain

Dagmagate hi sahi, hum har seedhi chadh jaate hain

Chahun na chahun sabke munn ki samajhleti hunn.

Apno ke faisalon ko , apne se aage rakh deti hunn

Kabhi Kisi ke muskurahat mai apni khushi dhundh leti hunn

Toh kabhi kisi ko khush karne k liye kuch bhi keh deti hunn.

Bado ki daat mai unka chipa har pyar dekh leti hunn

unke banaye Niyam pasand aayein na aayein follow karleti hunn.

Changes are for good yeh maanna seekhliya,

Sheeshe mai dekh khud ko sharmana bhi seekh liya :P

Andhero se dar lagta hai aaj bhi

Gabrati hunn kal na kho jaun, bheed mai samaj ki.

Koun hoga sath mere kal, Tut na jaun kuch aur aage badhkar

 kya  nibhapaungi sabkuch, bharosa karrahi bus khud par.

Intezar hai bus un hatho ka, jinhe tham kar hum chaldein

zindagi ke second phase ki shuruvaat kar dein :D

WOH BHOLI si Ankhein

Woh bholi si Ankhen, woh pyara sa chehra
Na jaane hum unme, kya dekhte hain

 Kabhi khwaab hain, toh kahin parchayiyan hain.
Ajab si kashis hai, anjaani si gehrayiyaan hain.

Jab bhi unko sochte hain, kho se jate hain hum kahin
bayaan karna hai mushil, par woh lamhe hote hain haseen

Unjale hote hain har taraf, andhere mit se jaate hain
Apni har pareshani ko bhool, hum yuhi muskurate hai

kabhi hasti, kabhi udass, toh kabhi hairaan hoti hain woh akhein
najaane koun sa dard hain, ki pareshaan hain woh ankhein

ba't lenge sari mushkilein hum, kabhi ek mauka toh dekar dekho
shayad nikaal payein hum bhi koi hul, humse keh kar toh dekho

Kya rakkha hai duriyon mai, kabhi toh pass aao
koun si hai woh seemayein , hume bhi  toh batao

Bina shart ke chaha hai tumko, bharosa na kabhi todenge
Ek baar hath badha to do, kabhi tanha na tumko chodenge.

Woh bholi si Ankhen, haye.... woh pyara sa chehra
Na jaane hum unme Aisa kya dekhtein hain !!!


------ My first hindi poem :D

TOO much to express!!

It's so funny we choose then doubt, change, expect, estimate at times we succeed and Fail so many other times. Whatever it is; we never stop doing it. I mean expectations and estimations never end, be it with your exam, work, relationship, or your LIFE
I may sound insane, but even though IF everything seems fine still there are times when besides being happy you feel, you are missing something desperately and unable to figure it out.……we are running behind it but again, no idea where will that stop Or may be trying to do something but  left somewhere Stuckked, somehow without knowing where to go from here... this things happens with me so often !
I always be so cool, chattering, cheering trying to make everyone around me giggle and laugh, but at times I find something missing in my laughter.
May be I need to consult a Doctor :D
Or May be I need to find someone to whom I can express and seek out for some solutions. Life is like THIS complicated if you try to understand it. Very Simple if you don’t question on anything go on accepting everything coming your way. Unfortunately that’s not ME.
Something Odd happens and we start thinking.. go on thinking There are so many reason behind everything may be more than our illusions or Perhaps, it just happens to be a coincidence. Or contradicting my own thoughts- it is fate. But we still think, it is the nature of human being.



 ---- CHEERS
Garima singh :)

I am not a Perfection Seeker !!!!

To,
All those who cheers for the best ones forgetting the others who fought well for that positions.
All those who crave to be at those positions.
All those who neglect the fact that the journey of success is more beautiful than success itself.

Hi All,

I know you all are very fine and doing good in what ever field or sector you are in, and even if you are not believe me its just your perception.

Many times it happens that if something happens rather very good to us or just the opposite we try to relive it in our head again and again (frequency will be more if its the latter case ). We film it and keep repeating the reel to find out where the heck things went wrong exactly or where it could have been better don't we !!!

"This is the worst time of my Life " how many of us say this ?
Okay Am rephrasing it, how Often we say this.... Well I got a good number when i answered that one.

The other day I found a bunch of friends giggling around talking to each other , Teasing few among them and then there was a cold war followed by a sequences of swear words, the whole group was divided into two both groups had a leader. I moved closure to the group, to find out what actually was going on.It was as though there was something lost and both were blaming each other for their mistakes.This went on for an hour and then both were upset and left the place separately.

We want every thing to fall into the plate.. at times with out even moving the plate. Probably its never necessary to be upset when you don't get a chance, ask your self were you deserving enough? did you really work hard. Problem 1 here, we never wait for our inner self to reply cuz we know it will say "You should have tried harder.. " rather we end up blaming others or the situation or our fate.

Hold On i am not preaching to work hard or to be sincere,well that's your choice what all i wanted to stress  is that, what if you don't succeed, what if you aren't at the first place, what if you missed the right bus. There is always a second, third and so many more coming up next, we just need to wait for them patiently. Being First is of course important but only till the race isn't ended.

Running behind the success don't fetch you anything until you could enjoy the journey towards it. Its not always necessary to be at the top because you would never be. When you aim for perfection, you will discover it to be a moving target. So if u end up saying am at the top, that means you have no where to go next.

Why is it that we all want everything so good so right so perfect... the best out of the best ones lol. be it your clothes, career, food, friends, life partners. I don't understand  this logic though. I completely disagree with the fact that the best ones are best  I believe- best is always temporary.

I really don't care if some one finds- my choice, my ideas to be funny...well they are mine.

And I am not a PERFECTION seeker, I love each and every bit of my imperfectionism, this is what keeps me Alive and this make me more eager to seek out ways for new challenges, One in so many of em', attracted to charisma of life am unique in my own way.

One thing i learnt today was---

"Perfectionism is not a quest for the best. It is a pursuit of the worst in ourselves, the part that tells us that nothing we do will ever be good enough - that we should try again. "
Julia Cameron

VAGUE

I thought they were inches but i moved too far

And at the end am just left with the scar !!!

I spent the whole night figuring out what went wrong

I know it's easy to blame, and you did the same..

Always wanted to be your friend though things were hard to sort

And you held me guilty for things, i've never thought

You Talk about true feelings, did you really mean them

Well i was true from my end, wonder have you never seen them

Whatever had happened i would never regret anything

Soon things will heal and even i'll try to forget everything

We all make mistakes in life, So did I

Am  pateint and stronger, don't be bothered i'll never cry !

A Last prayer for you, May all your wishes are met,

I don't want another reason to be upset!!

I thought they were inches but i moved too far

And at the end am just left with the scar !!!

My second poem :-D

Puppy love :P

Don't come to my thoughts and haunt me please

I still don't understand what it is...

I am trying hard to calm my mind with peace

but i lose my control when i feel your breeze

Boy your eyes , they soothe me so much

I feel restless when you are not in touch

I feel totally amazed when i see your smile
Baby you make me forget everything for a while

We can never be together, cuz its tough to believe you
I like you so much that, i would never deceive you

I wished you were a dream and gone after the sun rise

My heart still don't agree to this, otherwise...

I wonder all the while, how long it would go.....

But I'm liking it and i want time to tick slow..

 Well I Don't damn care you fall in love with whomsoever
Would still pray you be happy forever......

---------------------------------------- My first Poem ---- please comment if you find grammar mistakes :D

I am Sorry for my memory loss problem :D

"Hello ....... Excuse Me "
"hmmm " A voice woke me up .
" Madam if you can move your bag i would like to sit .." said a good looking guy.

"Please sit" I said taking my bag on my lap ... i wondered and checked out of window of bus 10 H .. i was at SR nagar
" Did i disturb your sleep " he asked with a smile
"No" i said , he was almost of my age.. and his eyes were very familiar to me ..I guess i feel this very often whenever i look at a cute guy .Lol
While i was thinking deeply about my plans for day after . I felt we were sitting too close ahem ahem ...well i could feel his mobile when it started vibrating hehe

i moved aside and he picked up his mob and started.
"Hello ...... hey ,hi....... no am on my way ........................ what oh really ...... blah blah  blah .................... bye dear mmm luv ya " that was the conversation....No wonder it was so clear to whom he is talking. I thought
I halted thoughts about my plans and started thinking why In this whole world almost every one is commited. The Generation today is so fast isn't it and i feel i don't belong to this generation i should have been born 25 years earlier ..............................
... few days back whie i was talking to a friend of mine about 5 years younger to me , she said 'guyz never understand her'.. she was very upset with her break up  and i had to console her on her 3rd break up LOL Well i had no other answer i jus said  ...dear you need to move on.. I smiled to my self

And Right at that moment, it was embarrasing to see that the guy beside me was staring at me...I turned my head towards window for a while and when i turned back he was still in same posture smiling this time


" Damn!! are you trying to scare me ? " i asked.
" No, no why what made you think that " he replied

There was a silence of five mins  and then after few mins

" You sleepy " the guy distracted me again.
"No why" i was tough with my voice this time
"Nothing jus wanted to ask ki ...How are you Garima"
"you .... mm.. you know me .." I was startled, hearing my name I turned to him and was looking at his face
" I don't know whether you remember me or not" he said looking at his mobile.. i was confused then started thinking do i know him .. do i
"Hey yes you have changed a lot " i could figure out a bit that he was from my class in +2
" haha yes ,  ... " he had a very big smile this time
" You are from narayana ?? right and you used to sit in last but one bench  " i started recollecting.
"yes , great you remember me ... you know i need to say thanks to you "
" for what ?" i enquired.
" You were very helpfull while mathematics exam that day  :D" ( giggles)

there was a long conversation.... we were talking about friends from our class, our lecturers and so mnay other things

"hey my stop is here ... bye garima it was nice to see an old fren like this, you haven't changed much " he stood.
"bye " i said ...

I was totally amazed.. god this guy has changed so much lol i mean it was tough to recognize a thin slim guyz in a total changed avtar of good build body and a  mustache hehhehehe

"keep smiling " he said while getting down at his bus stop


After 5 mins i realized that i don't remember his name, and i forgot to ask :-O



--------------------------------------------------------------Every experience teaches you some thing ---
 Lesson learnt  : Next time you find a very old friend, atleast ask his/her phone number so that u cud b fortunate to collect their name as well :P

My Old paintings :)

The first one :)

This was when i was learning how to make many colors from 4 of them :)

Cute na !!!!

Ahem Ahem 

And my favorite one  

I know they aren't that good but i loved painting them ....... hehe hope i add more :)

A Cup of Taste less coffee

After having a really tough day, I am here blogging with a mug of really taste less coffee :P 

after reading few of my old blogs , memorizing and re-living all those moments, i felt i should add one more .





Its totally true and I completely agree, that though life at times becomes routine, the time never repeats itself. Even though some things happens to us, for the second or third time.but,the effect never remains to be the same !!!

Its been almost a month since i joined my work place .
the journey from a student's life, to a would- be professional was so lovely .I've loved and lived each and every part thoroughly! i have enjoyed commiting tons of mistakes and learnt so much from most of them ...... !!!

And i feel so good about my past. whatever it has been,it was totally wonderful.So when ever i feel low... all i need to do is to close my eyes and remember those few good and funny moments. Interesting past isn't it? i would rather say my mind never lets me feel sad or depressed. now .... even if some thing is odd, my stress, tension or whatever we name our tough situations, never stay long ..... i some how tried to find a way out ..or may be I am lucky enough to find people who can pull me out of the situation very smoothly :)

CAUTION : Folks if you are not free and very busy read the remaining at your own risk ....



bcuz there will not be much interesting things for you below :P . so don't blame me if you don't like any of my life fundas or fall in love with me after reading all this lol



Funda 1
Never try to be happy !!
Just be happy. because, its your life and no matter what happens in your life, you are totally responsible for your next step :) .... so if you are happy its easy to take further steps :D

Funda 2
Never be sorry !
Being sorry and saying sorry are two completely different modes or phases.being Sorry-You are just thinking about what all went wrong || saying Sorry - You have realised what went wrong and are ready to correct it. Committing mistakes is quiet normal ... and while doing this knowingly or unknowingly we may hurt others or self .. never think too much to apologize, accept the bad in you in a proper way !!
Accept it and don't forget to correct yourself ....

Funda 3
Follow your hobby . Like every thing is important, enjoying life in the best way , is equally important.
keeping yourself busy with good things is so good and indeed entertaining. Feel free to learn things. if, you ever had a dream of learning to dance ,sing or whatever .. go ahead. because no one is ever that old for the learning process.
take some time to enjoy doing things that your heart loves to ..... because no one else can do that for us.

Funda 4

Don't be shy of expressing your self .feel free to talk out your heart when you like any thing .. feel free to compliment. don't think too much ..

"ya but do choose words carefully :P ;)" but never leave a chance to compliment others .because every one feels good about compliments. right !!.... feel free to sing and dance too... laugh out your heart as loud as possible :D.

Funda 5

Never search for mistakes in others ... don't find space to criticize others for the wrong causes (until and unless it is for their own good).. because ,what goes around comes around ...

Funda 6

Depressed ?? what has happened can never be changed.keep your self away from all those bad thoughts ...

Hard times come generally to test you to find out how harder you are.

think about all the positive things ,fill your head with maximum of nice memories. that is one of the best ways to be optimistic!!
as few say
" Remember the good in people Forget the bad ,is one way to be good ... "









Funda 7

Keep yourself calm in tough situation .... remember , no matter how big the argument be, it ends if one person could handle the situation with a calm mind and make the other person understand whats exactly went wrong !!












Funda 8

Don't be scared of anything :) , you can only live once............ make best out of every chance you get :) !!
" be very much serious about your work and opportunities until you face them (this is to be passionate ) ... once you are done with your work, relax !!do not think much about it or the result ( this is to face the results.. no matter what the result is. take failure and success in same way ) because success or failure both brings in many more opportunities where in you need a stable mind to face them again :-/

Funda 9

Fall in love when ever you want to. falling in love or feeling very good about some one or just liking someone trying to keep him /her happy ..... making some effort to make them smile .... keeps you very happy and i would rather say very energetic. you can always remain active and attentive mood to gather attention


Hmmm, while writing this blog I learnt one more funda of life - : generally things or situations are not that bad.its on us, how we take them ...For ME The day was hectic or i can say really tiring. but the coffee was good, "giggles" the last sip was really tasty or may be my mood has just changed the taste of coffee :)

here, i remember a nice quote , don't know who wrote it though :P


"Life's too short to wake up in the morning with regrets. Love the people who treat you right. Forget about the ones who don't. Believe that everything happens for a reason."



well, here i conclude this blog , hope you liked it and even if you dint :P

have a long and lovely life and may god bless you ! All the best.